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2/15/2013 6:00:00 AM
Kingman Letters: First choice not honored

We have been foster parents in Kingman for seven years now and have been recently seriously wronged.

We got an 11-month-old boy over a year ago and have loved and cared for him ever since. He was recently put up for adoption and we wanted him with all our hearts! Yet due to someone not liking us downtown, they decided to "give" him to a family that don't know him from Adam! This should never happen!

Whenever a child comes up for adoption, the family that has him is "supposed" to get "first" choice. We are an adoptive family and successfully adopted another child two years ago, yet we weren't deemed good enough for this one. Please, someone, help us.

We love this child with everything!

Mark Forrest


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Reader Comments

Posted: Wednesday, March 6, 2013
Article comment by: me myself and I MR.C.

@ Mark Forrest, As I commented before, Understanding how you must feel after caring for a young child for eleven months and coming short in the end. Perhaps you might find some comfort knowing others have found themselves in the same situation. You may have asked, some of the same questions as countless others have "I was good enough" when the child was in need of a place and placed in your care, but rejected as "not good" enough to be the child's permanent parent.

I'm no attorney or anything close to one, how ever if you are interested in learning more about policy Ect: You may find the following links helpful. The United States Administration for children and family's / P.L.96-272 title 38-chapter15 and adoption assistance and child welfare act of 1980 should get you started.

Posted: Monday, March 4, 2013
Article comment by: me myself and I MR.C.

@ Amaryllis Smith interesting you mention "Best interest of the child" no one, including myself could ever fault anyone from giving first priority to a child and standing before the court in deciding what those interest are.

Some time ago, while doing some background research on parental rights, I discovered to my amazement. A commission of "unelected" officials gather together in Cal and put together a docment which was adopted into law in every state in the union "But Two" which replaced the here before concept of maintaining and keeping a family unit intact when ever possible.

Without going into greater detail, Since most if my notes of reference are on a seperate computer and not readly at hand. The disturbing aspect of this commsion for me. Was A. They [commission] were not elected. B.Their disconnect with keeping the emphise on keeping a family unit intack when and where ever possible were abolished. C. How easely they made it to over ride parental rights.
P.S. As soon as I can locate the links,I will post them here, If I'm not mistaken Hillary Clinton was just one of many particpents of this comminssion.

Posted: Saturday, March 2, 2013
Article comment by: me myself and I MR.C.

@Mark You have touched upon a subject, which has neither a quick or easy answer's. Anyone who claims differently would be highly suspect in my mind.

Personally, my only first hand knowledge of a situation similar to yours comes directly from my youngest son and he's wife. For those who may not understand, you most likely feel betrayed by those you felt you could trust the most, as you are quickly learning, Noting could be further from the truth.

You say, there is already one adopted child in your life already, Unless you have a ton of money, I would personally take that love you had for that other child and give that additional love too the one you already have.

May the lord be with you and yours and no man stands taller in my mind, then one who stoops to help a child and you have already done that........ Good luck to you and yours in the months and days ahead.

Posted: Thursday, February 28, 2013
Article comment by: Amaryllis Smith

This a state matter, not the Mohave Cuonty board of supervisors! That's why all adoptions are in the Superior Court as well as termination of parental rights!
For all you know it could have been those blood related to the child who was allowed to adopt. But whatever, quit telling this man to go to the county for answers!!!

Posted: Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Article comment by: Epidemic Sweeps Mohave County

Yep, it's official politicaitus is rampant.

Posted: Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Article comment by: One Who Knows

Good advice, Dean

Posted: Monday, February 18, 2013
Article comment by: Two Issues?

"Call the County Board of supervisors if you dont get a quick reply from county staff."

Your kidding right? County and quick should never be used in the same statement!

"Maybe if you told them you were some holly-weird, left wing blow hard, they would change their tune!"

I'm sure if you check that you will find that the other people are either rich republicans , or related to someone involved in the process, or both.

Posted: Sunday, February 17, 2013
Article comment by: Amaryllis Smith

Mr Forrest, I know the loss you fell is tremendous and it will take a long time for that to ease. That baby was blessed to have had such loving, caring people during the transition of his life!
I was a CASA at one time and understand that you being in the position of foster parent and having bonded so strongly to this child you may have taken it very much for granted that you would be the chosen parents and were not prepared for that not being the case.
There are many factors and a number of highly trained and professional indivduals who make the ultimate decision and "The Best Interest of The Child" is the utmost important factor of the entire process. I'm sure the decision made was not intended to deem you "as not good enough" as a person.
The county has no jurisdiction in this matter but, there is counseling and perhaps attending meetings of grief counseling will be of great help as you try to accept the decision made. I hope you know what a Blessing to this child you have been and you will pray that God continue to Bless and Keep him in His care now and forever. I pray the very best to you and your family and you will continue to be the loving caring person you are!

Posted: Saturday, February 16, 2013
Article comment by: Capt. Nice

Something tells me there are two sides to this story.
Of course you are probably dealing with a government agency so I feel your pain !
Maybe if you told them you were some holly-weird, left wing blow hard, they would change their tune!

Posted: Friday, February 15, 2013
Article comment by: Dean Wolslagel

If you have an issue with a local agency you must file a complaint with that agency so they can try to remedy the situation quickly. It must be in writing and must address all the facts ...go thru the chain of command in the county administration. Call the County Board of supervisors if you dont get a quick reply from county staff.

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