Are you concerned about how others perceive you in social settings? Do you react to how others look at you, or to what others say about you? Our behavior and actions can change in different situations, depending on who is around. How can this be harmful to us? In these situations, we might find ourselves being afraid of others judging or criticizing us. Maybe we don't want others to be upset or disappointed with us, so we might find ourselves behaving in a way that pleases others and not necessarily ourselves.
Think about your thoughts in a social setting. Do you try to do things that make you feel good? Or, are you worrying about what others are thinking about you? Instead of striving to please others and meet their expectations, consider your own expectations first. Think about the goals you want to achieve and your positive attributes that will help you reach them. Take the opportunity to be the person you want to be - someone who believes in his or her ability to achieve weight loss success!
Maybe your feelings are exactly opposite of the first scenario. Maybe you find yourself being envious of other people. If so, those feelings can negatively impact your motivation. Looking at people you consider to be thin, assuming they don't ever worry about their eating habits, and then wishing that you could be like them is a waste of your time. Instead of creating emotional stress, focus on yourself and your weight loss efforts. Your weight loss success does not depend on whether or not other people can manage their weight easily or not. Your success depends on you.
There is no need to be envious of people you consider to be thin when you see them. This doesn't mean that you have to avoid looking at them. However, instead of envy, you can focus on positive features as they relate to your goals. For example, maybe you like the outfit that a particular person was wearing. You can reward yourself with a new, similar outfit when you reach a certain weight goal.
Eliminating feelings of envy or perceptions of how others view us can help us feel good about ourselves and help us stay motivated on a weight loss program.