A Miner Conversation

Relationships are not coincidental; they are a part of the plan

Ask any woman and she will tell you, good friends are hard to find.

My mother once told me that if I could count five good friends in my lifetime, I would be lucky.

I was in high school at the time, and I truly believed she was crazy.

I had a lot of friends, and I just knew I would be friends with them for the rest of my life.

Even when you continue on to college, life continues to be one big party, and you are still surrounded by a mob of friends.

It isn't until you move past school and enter the working world, the real world, where those friends no longer exist.

I sat down the other day, contemplating this column and my friendships, and I came across this familiar excerpt from the Bible, "To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven."

It never really made sense to me before, but I suddenly realized what was behind that statement.

To every thing there is a purpose and a time.

Not all things, not all relationships, are meant to last forever.

Perhaps we would like them to, but if they did, we may not all learn what we are here to learn, and we may not all achieve what we are destined to achieve.

Perhaps that kid in high school thought the amount of friends she had was what was important.

But it's the adult that has come to find that the number of friends you have does not matter, but the person you choose to befriend that does – the people who you choose to have in your life, and who choose to have you in theirs.

It truly is sad when friendships change course of direction or when they simply end altogether.

But there are those friendships that come by just a few times in your life when you know your life has been made better just by knowing that person.

When that happens, all of the risks you have taken and all of the heartache you have endured over failed friendships will all have been worth it.

Just a Miner conversation.

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Dana Miner is the Miner's editorial technician.