Dear Abby: I recently started seeing an entrepreneur. He’s basically the most amazing man I have ever been with.
Because of his position and stature, many women throw themselves at him. A friend of his told me that in the months that I’ve known him, he has had sex with at least five other women.
I’m not angry about it since we never formally agreed to be exclusive, but I’m in love with him and want him all to myself. When I confronted him, he said that because he never had success with women previously, he is prone to seduction. He said they didn’t mean anything to him and that he wants to be with me.
I have dropped the matter for now, but I’m still concerned. I have tried to step up my game in the bedroom, and I’m willing to do anything to stop him from looking elsewhere. How do I make him give up his harem? – Willing to Do Anything
Dear Willing: I wish you had more clearly defined what “prone to seduction” means. Was he saying that because years ago he had little success with women he is enjoying the attention?
While you may be willing to “do anything” to have him all to yourself, if this man is trying to make up for lost time, there’s nothing you can do. The two of you appear to be at very different places in your lives. If you want a man who is willing to have an exclusive relationship, you’re going to have to look elsewhere.
Dear Abby: I was just offered a promotion. It will mean more than a 40 percent increase in pay, which is unheard of in my company. People in my department are not taking it well.
Taking on this new endeavor scares me. I have had a tough year in my current position, and this new job is tailored to me. My current manager feels this job was meant for me. She has faith in me.
What’s awkward is, the position involves working with some of the same people I worked with previously. Am I taking on too much? I know the team I will be working with, and I have a feeling I will love it. I’m just scared of setting myself up for failure. My boss and new manager are giving me a great opportunity, and I don’t want to let anyone down. – Unsure
Dear Unsure: If your boss and new manager didn’t feel you were capable of taking on the new assignment, they could have offered the job to the numerous other people at the company.
As to your fear that you won’t succeed, all you can do is give it your best and keep moving forward.