Dear Abby: I’m 91. I have outlived many of my longtime friends. In my address book I counted 22 pals whose names I have crossed out after they died. These were people we danced, dined and traveled with. Only five members of the old gang are left, but they’ve all dispersed. Making new friends is difficult for people our age because we are not out and about as much.
Lonely? Yes, a bit. At holidays, some family members are good at extending themselves toward this old geezer, which I appreciate. When they look up from their cellphones, they discover I have something to contribute. I experienced the Depression, a variety of wars and many new inventions.
Abby, please remind your readers how much we appreciate those who engage us socially in some way. Many of us are past our warranty and won’t be available to answer questions much longer. – Old Geezer Out West
Dear Old Geezer: I’m pleased to put the word out. Readers, our senior citizens have much wisdom to offer. They can also be great fun to be around. However, they are a diminishing resource. “Geezer” is right. They won’t be around forever, so engage with them while you can. For that matter, neither will some of you when you’re their age. Because isolation isn’t healthy for anyone, do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Dear Abby: How can I get my husband to stop checking out other women in front of me? I have repeatedly told him it makes me feel bad. If I can refrain from looking at other men while I’m in his company, why can’t he do the same for me? It makes me feel like I’m not good enough. – Sad Wife in Arkansas
Dear Wife: Please accept my sympathy. Since you have made clear to your husband that what he’s doing bothers you, perhaps it’s time to accept that you married a disrespectful, classless boor. While many men look at women other than their wives, most of them do it discreetly to avoid hurt feelings.
Because what he’s doing is disrespectful, try viewing it from a different perspective. It’s not that you’re not good enough for your husband, but rather that he’s not good enough for you.
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