Dear Abby: Husband doesn’t share wife’s dreams of seeing the world

Dear Abby: I’ll be retiring next year. My husband is already retired. When I do, I want to travel in the U.S. and internationally. We are healthy, able to travel and we have the funds to do it.

The problem is, my husband isn’t crazy about traveling. He’ll go if I book it, but he fusses the whole time until we go. It’s not like he has to do anything. I do all the booking and packing. All he has to do is show up.

I told him one of my bucket list items was to live in Mexico for a month. Because I hate cold weather, I want to live somewhere warm.

Can you give me some advice on this matter? Help me change his mind about seeing the world before we are no longer able to. Or do you think I need to find a travel companion? – Bucket List in Virginia

Dear B.L.: You may need to do exactly that, and the way to change your husband’s mind about travel might be to say it. Not everyone has wanderlust. If he’s a confirmed homebody who regards travel as a punishment instead of a privilege, you should not have to suffer for it.

Dear Abby: My doctor prescribed medication to control my migraines, but I have to take the pills four times a day – at breakfast, lunch, dinner and bedtime. Although I’m not ashamed, I don’t want to have to explain why I am taking the medication because I’m afraid there may be a stigma attached to it. I don’t know what to do. If I try to vary the times, I end up forgetting to take a pill. What should I do? – Prescribed in San Antonio

Dear Prescribed: Take the medication on time as instructed by your physician. If you need a reminder, program it into your cellphone. There’s no more stigma attached to taking medication to prevent headaches than there is in taking it for any other medical reason. If you prefer not to be questioned about it, excuse yourself and do it in the restroom.

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