How could I possibly let Mother's Day pass without writing something about mothers? In the olden days most families were made up of a mother, father and siblings. Since that is no longer the case, this special day has many different meanings.
We have families with two moms, we have families that have foster moms, stepmoms, adopted moms and grandmas who are called mom. The role of mom may have changed, but I don't think anything else has. It still means the person who has loved you, cared for you, and usually done the best they know how in raising you.
You may be a person who knows who their mom is, yet they are NOT the one who raised you. It can indeed be much more complicated than it used to be. As the family unit has changed over the years, so too, has the role of a mother.
I believe that it is a special honor to be called mom. Even more so if you are not the biological mother.
In a perfect world we would all have such a person in our lives, but alas, this is not always the case. There are people from my own generation that have only unhappy memories of their mother. Perhaps she abandoned them, or some other such thing. They may have lost their mother at such a young age that they have little memories of her. We can't dictate the behavior of our parents no matter what age we are. Some of us are left only with some old black and white photos that we look at and try to remember this person who left us way too soon.
Even though my own mother has been gone for over 25 years now, nothing has really changed for me. I still love her, miss her and think about her more often than I can tell you. She was neither a perfect mother nor a perfect person, but she did the best she could and taught me many valuable lessons about life. Sadly, it was only after she was gone that I realized how smart she was. So many things she said to me did not make sense when I was young, but now I understand each and every thing she ever said to me.
I would like to think that those people who decided not to have children have somehow found this same connection with another human being. Mothering is not always even about being a mom, but sometimes it’s just putting the needs of others ahead of your own.
Those of you who are fortunate enough to still have your mother in your life are blessed. No matter what kind of job you think they did in raising you, they gave you life. What you did with it was not always their choice.
Wishing all the mothers out there a very HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY.
And hoping those, who like myself have lost their own mothers, will use this day to remember happy times, lessons learned, and the truly special moments you shared with your mother when she was here.