In my latest articles (Gun Safety Rules: parts I, II, III), I have shared the fundamental gun safety rules that every gun owner should always follow.
I would now like to talk about probably the most important thing you need in a violent confrontation with or without guns: How to avoid it.
Even when you have the legal and moral ground in a violent confrontation, the best option is to avoid it. Real life is not a movie. There are no heroes or a grandiose happy ending after a violent confrontation.
Even if you win that fight, you may end up arrested, facing civil and criminal charges, thousands of dollar in legal fees, and of course, a great emotional stress on you and your family with high cases of divorce, lost of friends, and the risk of getting killed.
Is it worth fighting back? If you are not given any other option to avoid it, to save your life and the life of an innocent is always worth it, in my opinion, but as law abiding gun owners, our goal is to avoid confrontations whenever we can. I have already stated, and I will say it again, “the firearm is a tool of last resort.”
Now let’s examine one factor on how to achieve this goal.
Probably the most important skill that you must find within yourself. No firearms instructor can teach you this. Attitude in life can create your path to success or misery, to living peacefully while staying out of trouble or going to jail and becoming a felon for the rest of your life.
The right attitude means that you understand that as gun owners we are held to a higher standard than the average person. With our right to keep and bear arms comes tremendous responsibility.
If a person normally reacts to a verbal confrontation without hesitation, confronts somebody trying to steal their parking space, confronts someone calling their wife a name; the moment you carry a firearm you must put aside that sense of pride.
You should try to avoid even these petty situations that can transform very quickly in something you cannot control. Even a disorderly conduct with a weapon will be a different matter compared to if you were unarmed.
While I was growing up in Italy, I spent most of my youth after 11 in boarding schools and ending the rest of education in a military school. I do not remember a week I was not involved in a fistfight.
I was not a violent kid, but I was not your typical young man who you could bully around, and don’t you dare to call my mother any name. That was my old me with my old attitude.
I came to America and in my 19 years living in my new country, I never let myself get into a violent confrontation.
What is the difference? Maturity? Yes, but mostly, a changing attitude, and as gun-owner, understanding the responsibility I have. We all can change our attitude if we really want.
I deeply believe that an armed society can be a polite society.
In my next article, we will continue with Part II of how to avoid a violent confrontation.
I invite you to any of my Free Gun Safety Classes that I teach around Mohave County. Click on www.FreeGunSafety.com.
Until then, be responsible, be safe, be armed, but remember, you are a weapon and the gun is just an extension of your brain.