Dear Abby: I’m a pansexual female and open about it with my friend and also my brother. The rest of my family is super Christian. I tried to bring up the “gay” word, but they’re all against it and have strong opinions about the subject.
I just want to feel accepted for who I am, and not keep anything from them. I need your opinion on when I should tell them -- or should I just not tell them at all? Your help would be appreciated. – Pansexual in the USA
Dear Pansexual: According to Wikipedia, the definition of pansexuality is “the sexual, romantic or emotional attraction toward people regardless of their sex or gender identity.” While it may be empowering for you to disclose this information, it should be clear to you that your family – with the exception of your brother – is not open to hearing it. Respect that.
However, you are free to live your life, so live it and be happy. You do not need their approval and you shouldn’t let their approval – or lack thereof – affect how you live.
Dear Abby: My husband and I own a coloring business. We color unicorns and rainbows and other pictures. They are beautiful and sell well.
Recently, my mother-in-law started begging us to let her join our team. Abby, I’m sure she would do fine and that she could color within the lines, but we do not need any help.
My husband suggested hiring her to run errands – to buy crayons and coloring books, perhaps – but I doubt she would be satisfied with that. I love our company as it is now. What do you think we should do? – Coloring For You
Dear C.F.Y.: Because you love your company “as it is now,” do not hire your mother-in-law to fill a job that doesn’t need filling. To do so would be a recipe for disaster, because getting rid of her would cause lasting hard feelings. Instead, you and your husband should explain that “the company” doesn’t need another colorist right now, and see if you can help her find a part-time job elsewhere if she needs money or has time to fill.
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