Dear Abby: My son’s girlfriend confided to me that my son, age 35, is cross-dressing. I knew his life was in flux and that his appearance had changed, but it stunned me. He hasn’t mentioned anything, and she said he would be very upset if I knew.
When I saw him the same day, I made sure to hug him and tell him I love him. Please tell me what to do or say. – What to Say in Texas
Dear What: Do nothing, say nothing. This isn’t your business, and the girlfriend was wrong to betray your son’s confidence.
It may reassure you to know that cross-dressing has been around for centuries and has been present in many cultures. Your son isn’t the only cross-dresser in the United States or even the state of Texas. Most male cross-dressers are heterosexual and do it because it feels good to them. It is no reflection on their morals, their sexual orientation or gender identity.
Dear Abby: I have a 6-year-old son, “Tyler,” from a previous relationship. I have been dating a man I’ll call Chad for almost four years.
My problem is, Chad can’t seem to have any kind of relationship or interaction with Tyler. Chad isn’t abusive, but he constantly ignores my boy and gives him no attention. I thought after all this time Chad would be used to my son, but it hasn’t happened. Sometimes he seems annoyed when Tyler is in the same room. I’m not sure if I should end the relationship or stick around. Any advice would be helpful. – Losing Hope
Dear Losing Hope: Your first responsibility is to your son. The way Chad treats Tyler will eventually damage the boy’s self-esteem if it hasn’t already. Children are perceptive. When they are ignored, they know something is wrong and think it’s their fault – that there’s something wrong with them and that they don’t measure up. My advice is to tell Chad the romance is over and why. Frankly, you should have done it years ago.
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