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Dear Abby: Man has misgivings about rough talk in the bedroom

Dear Abby: My wife and I have been married 25 years and have three adult children who no longer live with us. We are religious and belong to a conservative church.

We have a satisfying sex life. About 15 years ago we started using graphic language during our lovemaking. We find it exhilarates and enhances our experience. We do not call each other names; we use graphic words to express how good we feel during the act. The excitement I feel from this is cheaper than Viagra.

Is what we are doing wrong? We are empty nesters. I worry about what would happen if our closest religious friends knew. Would they feel the same way toward us? I believe words become wrong when they are used for the wrong motive. When I use them with my wife for better sex, my motive is pure. – Bedroom Secret in West Virginia

Dear Secret: Unless your religious friends have a hidden listening device in your bedroom, your worries are groundless. What happens in the bedroom between two adults – as long as it is consensual and hurts neither one – is OK and nobody else’s business.

Dear Abby: My younger brother has been with his girlfriend for three years off and on. He’s 22; she’s 19. He joined the Army during one of their breakups. (Being in the military was something he had wanted to do since he could talk.)

When he was away, she mentally abused him because she “doesn’t trust other people.” My brother has told me he’s only with her because she has nobody else. (She comes from a dysfunctional family.) She doesn’t allow him to have any kind of social life when she’s not around.

She’s now pregnant with what we believe is not my brother’s child, given they had broken up and the day they got back together, BAM! she’s pregnant.

This is affecting his relationship with our family and his lifelong buddies. What do I do? – Tired in the East

Dear Tired: Your family should talk to your brother as a group and discuss your concerns. His girlfriend is immature, insecure and controlling. He will be under her thumb for a lifetime if they marry. Ask him to clarify how honest he was when he said he was with her only because she had no one else.