Dear Abby: My husband has become very overweight, which has caused his sex drive – as well as his health – to suffer. I worry about him constantly, and I miss the intimacy we used to have. He is aware of how I feel and started trying to eat healthier. He also tries to exercise at least a little bit every day.
The problem is he constantly falls off the wagon. Sometimes he says he’s too tired to exercise, or he reverts back to his old habits and ends up eating fast food. He always tries again the next day, but he won’t make much progress at the rate he’s going.
I don’t want to nag him to death, but I do want him around for a long time. What can I say that will make him take this more seriously? – All About Health in Alabama
Dear All About Health: Tell your husband how much you love him, and that you’re afraid “until death do us part” will happen prematurely if he continues killing himself with his fork and his sedentary ways.
But if your husband’s doctor hasn’t been able to get the message through to him, there isn’t much more you can do besides love him for the wonderful husband he is and keep your fingers crossed. I say this because the only person who can “make” your husband commit to a diet and exercise program is himself.
Dear Abby: Recently, my wife took two of our granddaughters and a friend to the movies. The next day I found trash had been left in the car, which triggered the following text exchange.
I sent both granddaughters a picture of a garbage can and my car and asked: “Please advise which one is used to throw away trash? If you need help, ask your mom. I’m not accusing anyone of anything. Also, if one of your friends was to throw trash on your Poppy’s car floor, what should you do? Would you ask them to pick it up – yes or no?”
The only response I received was from their mom, who said, “Granddaughter did not leave trash in your car!” Things have gone downhill from there.
Many tears have been shed, and my wife has threatened to divorce me for standing my ground. We have agreed to have you settle this. What say you? – Talking Trash
Dear Talking Trash: You are the injured party. You did nothing wrong. You are owed an apology from all concerned – the kid who left the trash in your car, and your wife and daughter for overreacting.
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