Dear Abby | Man learns he’s not first to propose marriage to girl

Dear Abby: I met the love of my life eight months ago. Everything about our relationship is perfect. We both love our families, fine food, games and, most importantly, each other. We met at an antique store and now have an extensive stamp collection together.

Wanting this joy to last forever, I proposed to her. I couldn’t imagine a happier life for both of us, until I discovered that she is already engaged. Her mother informed me that she had accepted a proposal from a close friend of ours months ago.

At first I was devastated, but now I understand the situation. She felt obligated to accept his proposal, yet I know she will only find true happiness by marrying me. How do I go about bringing this up to her? I’m very non-confrontational, and don’t want her to feel awkward or uncomfortable. Should I tell her what I know or wait for her to come to me? Please help. – In Love

Dear In Love: Something is definitely wrong with this picture. Sometimes confrontation is healthy. Don’t waste another moment waiting for the girl to level with you. Tell her what her mother told you and ask if it is true. If it is, she needs to explain. Although you may be ready to settle down and get married, she may not be emotionally mature enough to marry either one of you.

Dear Abby: Today, June 21 – the first day of summer – is the annual ASK Day (Asking Saves Kids). Children are out of school and visiting other people’s homes. This is a moment to remind parents to ask if there are guns in these homes and if they’re stored safely – out of kids’ reach.

Will you help us get the word out about our campaign? Prevention saves lives, and we’re grateful for your consideration. – Bettina Lanyi, Brady Campaign

Dear Bettina: I’m pleased to spread the word. Readers, the ASK Campaign is a collaboration between the Brady Center to Prevent Gun Violence and the American Academy of Pediatrics. Its goal is to ensure kids’ safety by encouraging parents to ASK if there is an unlocked gun in the homes where their children play.

For more information, I encourage you to visit askingsaveskids.org. There you will find various resources, including tips for parents and others on how to bring up the sometimes-awkward topic of safe storage.