Dear Abby: I was working out of town in a position that paid a good salary. When my adult son proposed to his girlfriend, I told him I would try and give him $10,000 for the wedding. Well, things changed. I had to return home for good, and my salary was cut. When I told my son I wouldn’t be able to give him $10,000, but could give him only $5,000 instead, he became very upset and said, “You promised that amount and we were counting on that money!”
I feel a gift is a gift, and they should be happy with whatever I can manage. After talking it over with several friends, they all agreed that he is behaving inappropriately. I am single and trying to retire in 10 years. Please help. – Salary Cut In Pennsylvania
Dear Salary Cut: Your son’s reaction was immature. He should understand that sometimes circumstances can change. If you haven’t already explained why you need to cut back on the sum you planned to give him, do it now. How he reacts to your explanation will tell you whether you want to give him even $5,000.
Dear Abby: I recently took a job working for someone I knew. He was a neighbor and attended my church for several years, but we were never more than acquaintances.
After I began working there, I saw things going on with other girls in the office that were very inappropriate. Then I stumbled across a sexual online chat he was having with one of them. As I scrolled through the feed, it became apparent they’re having an affair. It made me so uncomfortable I quit working there.
We still live in the same community. He has a beautiful, kind and very pregnant wife. Should I tell her? Should I tell anyone, or stay quiet and let him get away with it? It makes me sick, and I don’t know what to do at this point. – Uncomfortable in the West
Dear Uncomfortable: Allow me to suggest that what you do is remain silent, at least for now. The kind and very pregnant wife does not need to be told that her husband is cheating with an employee at this juncture. After the baby is born, perhaps she should be told – if she doesn’t know already – but NOT NOW.
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