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Abigail Van Buren

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Dear Abby | Hurt turns to anger as video games consume boyfriend

Dear Abby: I am tired of taking a backseat to my boyfriend’s video game addiction.

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Dear Abby | Widow returns to the dating pool and finds troubled water

Dear Abby: I was widowed seven years ago. When my husband died, I thought it was the end of my suffering.

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Dear Abby | Grandma is at a loss for words of advice for smitten grandson

The Teen booklet has been distributed in doctors’ offices and used to promote discussions by educators and religious leaders, as well as parents who find it hard to discuss these topics with their children.

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Dear Abby | Food-loving family makes no exception for special diet

Explain that you know they would not feed certain foods to a diabetic, and you need the same dispensation.

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Dear Abby | Girl’s old friends turn away when she returns to school

My daughter has graduated from high school. She had been in a residential treatment program for depression the year and a half prior to returning to this school. Her old friends had promised to be there for her when she returned.

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Dear Abby | Love is the best present to give grandson with Down syndrome

We have three grandchildren and are due to make our annual visit. Two of the children are easy to plan for, and we have good relationships with them.

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Dear Abby | Crush on married boss causes heartache every day for worker

I’m in a relationship with my high school sweetheart, whom I truly love, but I am also crazy about my boss. She’s beautiful, funny, and to be honest, I jumped at my promotion so I could get closer to her.

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Dear Abby | Talk of remarriage triggers questions about burial plots

My brother-in-law “Charles” has earned the privilege of being buried in a military cemetery. He lost his wife, “Claire,” to cancer 10 years ago; she is buried in their plot in the military cemetery with a headstone.

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Dear Abby | Wife of perfect husband cheats without remorse

Dear Abby: I have a wonderful husband of 11 years and three children.

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Dear Abby | Old friend is slow to follow up on attempt to reconnect

Her response – or lack of one – will tell you if she’s really interested.

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Dear Abby | Mom wants to ban alcoholic daughter from son’s reception

Our son and his fiancee are having a destination wedding. My husband and I are hosting a local reception here where we live because we would like our close family and friends to be able to celebrate their wedding.

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Dear Abby | Twelve-step programs offer healing for sexual addiction

After reading the letter from “Dumbstruck in Chicago” (April 24), who’s dating a recently divorced man who was unfaithful to his ex-wife through multiple affairs and one-night stands with prostitutes, I cannot stay silent.

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Late bloomer worries he is being labeled a playboy

Little girls have been known to wrap their daddies around their little fingers before they are old enough to walk. The same is true for baby boys and their mothers.

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Dear Abby | Disapproving son tries to put an end to mother’s romance

I am a 64-year-old widow who lost my husband 5 1/2 years ago. I became reacquainted with a former classmate at a high school reunion, and we started dating.

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Dear Abby | Long-distance love may be drifting even further apart

I am a retired male. My girlfriend is still working. We have been exclusive for three years. We live 300 miles apart but see each other every two or three weeks for at least three days and, until now, have had a very good relationship.

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Dear Abby | Teens are kept in the dark about dad’s office affair

My husband of 20 years has blindsided me by announcing he’s leaving. Come to find out he’s “in love” with a co-worker and thinks they are soul mates.

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Dear Abby | Love of fast food slows man’s effort to lose weight

My husband has become very overweight, which has caused his sex drive – as well as his health – to suffer. I worry about him constantly, and I miss the intimacy we used to have. He is aware of how I feel and started trying to eat healthier. He also tries to exercise at least a little bit every day.

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Dear Abby | Freshman’s plans for college include breast enhancement

She’s off to college in a few months, and “in order to ensure she’s attractive to boys,” wants to get a boob job. She works in a clothing store and has saved toward the cost.

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Dear Abby | Divorced dad vows to boycott any events that include his ex

Dear Abby: My parents went through a bitter divorce five years ago and have had little to no contact since then.

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Dear Abby | Wife endures verbal abuse along with loveless marriage

Because you know he’s cheating, hire a private detective for a month and find out who with. Then talk to a lawyer about what your rights are as a wronged wife in New York.

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Dear Abby | Medical privacy rules stymie ‘dad’ to girlfriend’s children

A guarantor is different from a legal guardian or parent. Have their mother call the doctors and request the information so she can share it with you.

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Dear Abby | Open road calls to husband, but wife is happy at home

My wife and I have been married for 42 years. For the most part, we have had a good marriage. We raised two children, are helping to raise three grandchildren and still enjoy each other’s company.

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Dear Abby | Woman is put in the middle of an affair among friends

Jane is having an affair with Mary’s husband and has confided in me about every detail. She keeps telling me it’s over, and then I find out it isn’t. I spoke to Mary’s husband and told him if it doesn’t stop, I’ll tell Mary.

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Dear Abby | Girlfriend sees trouble ahead with man’s plans for mother

I am a woman, 34, who has finally met the man I want to spend my life with. He’s 31, and his family lives about six hours away. He plans to move his mother here to live in the near future. She doesn’t work or drive.

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Dear Abby | Man learns he’s not first to propose marriage to girl

I met the love of my life eight months ago. Everything about our relationship is perfect. We both love our families, fine food, games and, most importantly, each other. We met at an antique store and now have an extensive stamp collection together.

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Dear Abby | Lifelong bachelor’s interest in teen girl triggers alarm

Dear Abby: I have a 59-year-old brother-in-law who has always been a “proud bachelor.” He isn’t a rich, handsome, George Clooney-type bachelor, but a hand-to-mouth, burping, uncouth “Shallow Hal” kind of bachelor. He befriended a woman with four daughters, paying most of his attention to one of the daughters.

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Dear Abby | Cancer patient discusses too much detail in public

Have a frank talk with your friend, tell her her behavior is inappropriate, and ask her not to do it in front of you.

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Dear Abby | Couple planning a family disagree about adoption

My husband and I have been happily married for two years. We both want biological children later, when the timing is right.

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Dear Abby | Father’s day is bitter reminder for daughter mourning her dad

I got a stepdad when I was a young teen. He never tried to replace my dad, and was very respectful of that relationship. I didn’t regard him as a father figure, but more as a relative, friend, and a good man who has done a lot of good for my family.

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Dear Abby | Son lives in constant fear for unhappy mom’s welfare

My mother-in-law constantly talks to my husband about committing suicide because she’s not happy with her life or her husband. My husband worries all the time and has offered to let her come stay with us for a while.

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Dear Abby | Couple’s plans hit a snag over detour to a strip club

You escalated the situation and you shouldn’t have. However, if you feel so strongly about strip clubs, perhaps you should consider finding another man to spend your life with because it really isn’t possible to control the actions of another adult.

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Dear Abby | Woman finds ways to mend lost dream of motherhood

I have some suggestions for “Longing to Be a Mom” (Feb. 27), whose husband doesn’t want a child. If you talk your husband into it, are you prepared to do all the parenting while he sits staring at the TV or starts working longer hours or worse? Are you prepared for the lack of connection that child might have with his/her father?

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Dear Abby | Unhappy mom is harassed by her family of pranksters

I tend to react poorly when someone pulls a prank on me. My reaction is usually anger, hurt or embarrassment, and I end up saying or doing things I later regret because emotion took over.

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Dear Abby | Woman looks for exit ramp out of one-way friendship

I have a friend who brags nonstop about her boyfriend, her job, her new car, etc. She only comes out of the woodwork every so often to text me things like, “Roy just got a $13 raise at work!” I respond with wholehearted support and congratulations, then don’t hear from her again until days later.

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Dear Abby | Fake flower prompts emotional reaction from offended widow

My brother-in-law died a month ago and was cremated by the local affiliate of a prominent funeral home. To make it easier for my sister, I accompanied her to the mortuary to pick up her husband’s remains. I walked in alone, and as I returned to the car with his urn, a young funeral home employee in a black suit and scuffed shoes followed me.

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Dear Abby | Military marriage suffers from frequent separation

Separation is part of a military marriage. I agree that for you and your husband to fix what’s wrong with your marriage, he will need to be present and accounted for.

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Dear Abby | Choice made before difficult birth continues to haunt mom

From where I sit, you TOLD your husband what you wanted his choice to be, and because he loves you, he immediately agreed.

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Dear Abby | Dating is the latest challenge for teen who beat leukemia

My daughter is 17. When she was 1, she had leukemia. The treatments have left her with chronic pain as well as some disabilities that she deals with.

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Dear Abby | Rescinded vacation invitation causes bad blood in family

My son “Jeff” is wealthy and lives in another state with his wife and family. His wife has now moved her mother to where they live, and she works for my son.

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Dear Abby | Grandma is reluctant to share her title with boyfriend’s mom

My granddaughter, “Emily,” is 13. I have been very involved with her all her life. My daughter, “Ginger,” is divorced and has had a boyfriend, “Greg,” for about three years, but there has been no talk of marriage.

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Dear Abby | Man must choose between wife and pregnant mistress

My husband and I have been married for 13 years and have two beautiful children. I recently found out that for the last two years, he has been having an affair, and his mistress is now three months pregnant.

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Dear Abby | Family urges bride to choose flaky cousin as maid of honor

Talk to your cousin and also your best friend. When you do, remind your cousin there are serious responsibilities that go along with being a maid of honor and ask if they would create a problem for her

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Dear Abby | Women’s shared misery enabled better friendship

I lost my husband of 45 years three years ago.

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Dear Abby | Widow’s loving boyfriend is also an incorrigible flirt

I’m not going to attempt to psychoanalyze a man I have never met. Heck, it’s hard enough to do when I know the person.

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Dear Abby | Long hours, high debt doomed marriage man can’t let go of

Stalking your ex-wife on Facebook isn’t going to get you what you want.

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Dear Abby | Daughter sees bleak future with mom she can’t stomach

You are responsible for your mother’s social life because you have placed yourself in that position.

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Dear Abby | Adult daughter living at home interrupts mom’s private life

If she can’t adapt to that reality, she should live elsewhere. It may take her longer to afford her own house, but you will all be more comfortable.

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Dear Abby | Man devoted to wife suffering Parkinson’s fulfills his vows

Your letter is inspirational. In your P.S. you asked me to print it to help others. Your letter, and others I’m including here, may help to put this sensitive subject into perspective.

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Dear Abby | Hard work in gym pays off with arm-wrestling triumph

I’m average, fitness-wise, and work in an office. My girlfriend, who is naturally athletic, has belonged to a gym for a year. Our two fitness paths collided when I was enjoying a coffee with her and her training partner, “Trixi,” at her place one day.

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Dear Abby | Family was absent the day wedding etiquette was taught

I belong to a family that doesn’t respond to RSVPs for weddings or wedding showers.

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