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Abigail Van Buren

Stories by Abigail

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Dear Abby | With dad out of the country, boyfriend takes on parenting

My husband’s brother split from his wife, “Charlotte,” five years ago and now works and lives in another country. The brothers are still quite close.

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Dear Abby | Mom assisting son’s job hunt stymied by internships

My son, a junior in college, is trying to get a summer job. His degree is challenging, and he has a good work ethic plus job experience.

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Dear Abby | Girl feels guilty for partying during breakup with boyfriend

Dear Abby: I am a 17-year-old senior and have been dating the same boy for two years.

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Dear Abby | Teen is struggling to rebuild connection to alcoholic mom

Dear Abby: My mom is a recovering alcoholic.

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Dear Abby | Mom is rattled to learn son has started cross-dressing

Dear Abby: My son’s girlfriend confided to me that my son, age 35, is cross-dressing.

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Dear Abby | Couple separates after acting class causes domestic drama

Dear Abby: When I was 70, I started taking drama classes twice a week (I still do).

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Dear Abby | Girl is tempted to choose a college close to home

My daughter is graduating from high school and will be starting college. It was always her plan to go to a school away from our small town, and I supported that decision. However, six months ago she started dating her first real boyfriend.

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Dear Abby | RV road trip with preteens is no vacation for teacher

My second-oldest sister wants to plan an elaborate road trip this summer that involves renting an RV and driving cross-country with our nieces to visit Disneyland. She feels that since I have the summer off, I should be more than happy to go on this trek.

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Dear Abby | Father’s habit of returning food proves hard to swallow

Dear Abby: I am in my 30s and moved out of my parents’ home 10 years ago.

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Dear Abyy | Man’s decision to keep cancer a secret could impact others

Dear Abby: I’m writing in response to the man who wants to keep his cancer prognosis secret until he nears the end (“Keeping It to Myself,” Jan. 11).

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Dear Abby | Marriage threatened by wife’s online relationship with ex

Dear Abby: My wife of 20 years has been electronically unfaithful.

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Dear Abby | Boyfriend’s chronic conditions prompt partner to weigh options

Dear Abby: I have been in a relationship for four years.

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Dear Abby | Suspicion, deception surround elderly father’s younger wife

My elderly father remarried after my mother died two years ago. He married an acquaintance who is 30 years younger at the courthouse with no friends or family in attendance.

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Dear Abby | Customer resents questioning when making a store purchase

Is there a polite way to refuse giving store clerks personal information? It seems like every time I shop, the clerks demand email, phone number, even birthdate, and they get testy when I say I just want to complete my purchase.

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Dear Abby | Man waiting in the wings tires of one-way romance

Dear Abby: I have been communicating with this girl I work with who is currently seeing a guy she’s been with for four years.

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Dear Abby | Household division of labor is source of couple’s tension

Dear Abby: “Ron” and I have been married 20 years and have two children.

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Dear Abby | New wife surprised to learn of husband’s family secret

Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married for a few months and are expecting our first child.

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Dear Abby | Despite their divorce, ex-wife treats man like a best friend

My ex-wife and I were married for 29 years. Then she had an affair with a co-worker’s husband. Now that we’re divorced, she thinks we should be the best of friends!

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Dear Abby | Woman proud of her heritage is rocked by results of DNA test

I am a 32-year-old woman whose mother and grandmother told me about our proud Native American heritage all my life.

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Dear Abby | Words fail woman in response to sister-in-law’s miscarriage

Dear Abby: My sister-in-law, a mother of four, just had a miscarriage at five months.

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Dear Abby | Wife left at home with the kids longs to socialize with adults

Dear Abby: My husband, Tom, and I have three kids: One is in college, the next is in grade school and the youngest is a baby.

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Dear Abby | Man wrestles with coming clean about his infidelity

Dear Abby: I have been married to my wife for 10 years.

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Dear Abby | Love is lost in good marriage as abuse increases with time

Dear Abby: I have been married 14 years and have two children.

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Dear Abby | Longtime addiction remains a secret in woman’s past

I am a 53-year-old woman who has finally met a kind, decent man after many abusive relationships.

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Dear Abby | Disabled wife is overwhelmed by husband’s messy habits

I’m a disabled middle-aged woman, married for 15 years. From the beginning, there was never much passion between my husband and me, but we’re friends.

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Dear Abby | Cancer diagnosis prompts search for life’s lost love

Remember, that decision was made many years ago. What if you find her and she’s married with children? Would it make you feel better or worse?

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Dear Abby | Son throws a tantrum after wedding gift is cut in half

Your son’s reaction was immature. He should understand that sometimes circumstances can change.

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Dear Abby | Lighthearted poem reminds visitors to use guest towels

Dear Abby: I’m frustrated that guests in my home almost never use the guest towels I’ve put out for them in the bathroom. Why do they do this?

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Dear Abby | Woman irked when co-worker mimics her distinctive style

Dear Abby: I have been trying to get healthy for years and recently lost a lot of weight.

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Dear Abby | Parents blame teen’s friends for underage drinking episode

My 15-year-old daughter, “Jenny,” went to a sleepover with her two best friends from school last Friday, “Penny” and “Ginger.” Penny’s parents went out and left the girls alone.

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Dear Abby | Guilt weighs down daughter of independent elderly mother

My 92-year-old mother lives alone, still drives and manages by herself with a feral cat she took in. She’s dealing with heart failure, but doing well on her meds. I am 70, an only child, married, retired and live six hours away.

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Dear Abby | Granddaughter is blind to signs of fiance’s abusive potential

Dear Abby: My granddaughter is getting married in seven months and I’m worried for her.

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Dear Abby | Newlywed wife rejects idea of welcoming a second wife

Dear Abby: I have been married for seven months, and my husband wants a second wife, something I do not agree with.

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Dear Abby | Memories of long-ago assault revived by #MeToo movement

Dear Abby: Years ago, my husband and I hosted a St. Patrick’s Day party in our apartment for friends.

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Dear Abby | Man’s work-life balance isn’t working for overburdened mom

Dear Abby: I have been married two years, but my husband and I have been together for more than 10.

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Dear Abby | Man’s choice of wedding day steals spotlight from stepmom

Dear Abby: I’m struggling because my stepson has chosen to get married on my birthday.

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Dear Abby | Happy couple seeks best way to support troubled friends

Dear Abby: Occasionally, married friends will come to my husband and/or me venting about their marital problems.

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Dear Abby | Wife can’t watch as ‘friend’ abuses husband’s generosity

My husband loaned a “dear friend” some money a year ago. She has yet to pay back a penny.

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Dear Abby | Off-and-on relationship may be off again after confession

Dear Abby: My boyfriend, “Al,” and I have been together for two years off and on.

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Dear Abby | Wife’s desire for motherhood grows stronger as years pass

Dear Abby: My husband and I are 15 years apart in age.

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Dear Abby | Work leaves single mom with little time for son

I work so much that my son has stopped calling me “Mommy” and instead calls me by my name.

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Dear Abby | Retired teacher is pessimistic about finding a new romance

Dear Abby: I am a 70-year-old male former teacher and social worker.

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Dear Abby | Parents fall short on promises to help their ailing daughter

Dear Abby: I suffer from a debilitating, rare, chronic illness.

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Dear Abby | Message left on voicemail embarrasses bulimia patient

Dear Abby: My psychiatrist’s office called and left a very sensitive voicemail about my bulimia on a message machine shared with other individuals.

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Dear Abby | Mother fears past abuser has now targeted her son

This female relative has been asking about my son on social media because she has seen him in pictures with Bryan’s family.

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Dear Abby | Longtime employee is irked by colleagues’ work ethics

Dear Abby: I am almost 62 and struggling to get through the day at work.

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Dear Abby | Former Plain Jane becomes obsessed with her looks

Dear Abby: When I was in my teens, and even into my 20s and 30s, I was a Plain Jane.

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Dear Abby | Gamer boyfriend scores low points while visiting mom

Dear Abby: My daughter and her boyfriend have been together for four years.

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Dear Abby | Woman’s higher income may bruise her boyfriend’s ego

Dear Abby: My boyfriend, “Hal,” and I have been dating for a year and a half, living together for six months.