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Abigail Van Buren

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Dear Abby | Preschooler being breastfed is a concern for her father

Our daughter turns 5 soon, and my wife still breastfeeds her to bed every night and wakes her a few times a night for more breastfeeding.

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Dear Abby | Daughter’s declaration of love rocks relationship with mom

One reason gay people have “issues,” as you put it, is because they have to endure opposition and nonacceptance from the family members they love.

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Dear Abby | Best friend’s invitation loses appeal as details are revealed

My boyfriend’s best friend asked if we could drive an hour to visit them and their children on Saturday.

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Dedicated churchgoer seeks strength against temptation

I am a happily married man. I’m also a part of my church’s worship team and at the church three times a week. Two ladies are active in the church almost as much as I am.

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Dear Abby | Retired husband’s wardrobe is too casual for wife’s comfort

Dear Abby: When I met my husband, he dressed impeccably – suits, sharp sport coats, monogrammed shirts, freshly pressed dress slacks, top-of-the-line leather shoes.

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Dear Abby | Wife is annoyed that husband answers call of nature outside

Dear Abby: We moved to the country, but we’re not really far out of town.

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Dear Abby: Nurse knocked into emotional tailspin by cancer diagnosis

A few weeks ago, I was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer.

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Dear Abby | Long-ago lovers reconnect despite daughters’ objection

I had a brief affair with a married man 36 years ago. “Jerry” had left his wife after learning she was sleeping with his best friend.

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Dear Abby | As widow moves on, mom hopes to claim son’s ashes

My adult son passed away two years ago at a young age. We were very close while he was growing up. He married young, and I maintained a great relationship with both him and his wife.

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Dear Abby | Friends push single woman to date, but offer no help

Dear Abby: I’m 37 and still single.

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Dear Abby | Visiting is a one-way street for sisters refusing to travel

Dear Abby: I have three sisters who won’t come to visit me.

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Dear Abby | Revelations about man’s past cloud hopes for bright future

Dear Abby: I recently started dating a man who, until now, has been everything I wanted – respectful, kind, caring, funny, the list goes on.

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Dear Abby | Plans to live together fall apart as boyfriend backs out

My boyfriend, “Chris,” and I were planning on moving in together. We went apartment hunting and created a realistic budget we could both maintain.

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Dear Abby | Age is a barrier to daughter joining mom’s social club

Dear Abby: I am part of a small social ladies group.

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Dear Abby | Brother’s fiancee is unaware of his hidden opiate addiction

Dear Abby: My divorced 38-year-old brother is addicted to opiates.

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Dear Abby | Marriage loses intimacy after accident disables husband

Dear Abby: Six years ago, my husband of 20 years was in a serious accident.

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Dear Abby | Bride accuses mom of using wedding to spotlight herself

Dear Abby: Once I announced my engagement, my already thin, fit mother went on a diet and lost 20 pounds.

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Dear Abby | With dad out of the country, boyfriend takes on parenting

My husband’s brother split from his wife, “Charlotte,” five years ago and now works and lives in another country. The brothers are still quite close.

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Dear Abby | Mom assisting son’s job hunt stymied by internships

My son, a junior in college, is trying to get a summer job. His degree is challenging, and he has a good work ethic plus job experience.

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Dear Abby | Girl feels guilty for partying during breakup with boyfriend

Dear Abby: I am a 17-year-old senior and have been dating the same boy for two years.

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Dear Abby | Teen is struggling to rebuild connection to alcoholic mom

Dear Abby: My mom is a recovering alcoholic.

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Dear Abby | Mom is rattled to learn son has started cross-dressing

Dear Abby: My son’s girlfriend confided to me that my son, age 35, is cross-dressing.

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Dear Abby | Couple separates after acting class causes domestic drama

Dear Abby: When I was 70, I started taking drama classes twice a week (I still do).

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Dear Abby | Girl is tempted to choose a college close to home

My daughter is graduating from high school and will be starting college. It was always her plan to go to a school away from our small town, and I supported that decision. However, six months ago she started dating her first real boyfriend.

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Dear Abby | RV road trip with preteens is no vacation for teacher

My second-oldest sister wants to plan an elaborate road trip this summer that involves renting an RV and driving cross-country with our nieces to visit Disneyland. She feels that since I have the summer off, I should be more than happy to go on this trek.

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Dear Abby | Father’s habit of returning food proves hard to swallow

Dear Abby: I am in my 30s and moved out of my parents’ home 10 years ago.

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Dear Abyy | Man’s decision to keep cancer a secret could impact others

Dear Abby: I’m writing in response to the man who wants to keep his cancer prognosis secret until he nears the end (“Keeping It to Myself,” Jan. 11).

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Dear Abby | Marriage threatened by wife’s online relationship with ex

Dear Abby: My wife of 20 years has been electronically unfaithful.

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Dear Abby | Boyfriend’s chronic conditions prompt partner to weigh options

Dear Abby: I have been in a relationship for four years.

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Dear Abby | Suspicion, deception surround elderly father’s younger wife

My elderly father remarried after my mother died two years ago. He married an acquaintance who is 30 years younger at the courthouse with no friends or family in attendance.

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Dear Abby | Customer resents questioning when making a store purchase

Is there a polite way to refuse giving store clerks personal information? It seems like every time I shop, the clerks demand email, phone number, even birthdate, and they get testy when I say I just want to complete my purchase.

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Dear Abby | Man waiting in the wings tires of one-way romance

Dear Abby: I have been communicating with this girl I work with who is currently seeing a guy she’s been with for four years.

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Dear Abby | Household division of labor is source of couple’s tension

Dear Abby: “Ron” and I have been married 20 years and have two children.

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Dear Abby | New wife surprised to learn of husband’s family secret

Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married for a few months and are expecting our first child.

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Dear Abby | Despite their divorce, ex-wife treats man like a best friend

My ex-wife and I were married for 29 years. Then she had an affair with a co-worker’s husband. Now that we’re divorced, she thinks we should be the best of friends!

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Dear Abby | Woman proud of her heritage is rocked by results of DNA test

I am a 32-year-old woman whose mother and grandmother told me about our proud Native American heritage all my life.

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Dear Abby | Words fail woman in response to sister-in-law’s miscarriage

Dear Abby: My sister-in-law, a mother of four, just had a miscarriage at five months.

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Dear Abby | Wife left at home with the kids longs to socialize with adults

Dear Abby: My husband, Tom, and I have three kids: One is in college, the next is in grade school and the youngest is a baby.

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Dear Abby | Man wrestles with coming clean about his infidelity

Dear Abby: I have been married to my wife for 10 years.

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Dear Abby | Love is lost in good marriage as abuse increases with time

Dear Abby: I have been married 14 years and have two children.

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Dear Abby | Longtime addiction remains a secret in woman’s past

I am a 53-year-old woman who has finally met a kind, decent man after many abusive relationships.

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Dear Abby | Disabled wife is overwhelmed by husband’s messy habits

I’m a disabled middle-aged woman, married for 15 years. From the beginning, there was never much passion between my husband and me, but we’re friends.

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Dear Abby | Cancer diagnosis prompts search for life’s lost love

Remember, that decision was made many years ago. What if you find her and she’s married with children? Would it make you feel better or worse?

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Dear Abby | Son throws a tantrum after wedding gift is cut in half

Your son’s reaction was immature. He should understand that sometimes circumstances can change.

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Dear Abby | Lighthearted poem reminds visitors to use guest towels

Dear Abby: I’m frustrated that guests in my home almost never use the guest towels I’ve put out for them in the bathroom. Why do they do this?

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Dear Abby | Woman irked when co-worker mimics her distinctive style

Dear Abby: I have been trying to get healthy for years and recently lost a lot of weight.

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Dear Abby | Parents blame teen’s friends for underage drinking episode

My 15-year-old daughter, “Jenny,” went to a sleepover with her two best friends from school last Friday, “Penny” and “Ginger.” Penny’s parents went out and left the girls alone.

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Dear Abby | Guilt weighs down daughter of independent elderly mother

My 92-year-old mother lives alone, still drives and manages by herself with a feral cat she took in. She’s dealing with heart failure, but doing well on her meds. I am 70, an only child, married, retired and live six hours away.