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Mon, March 18

Dear Abby: Man back in dating game must try and try again

Dear Abby: I’m a 57-year-old male who has been thrust back into the dating scene. I’m financially secure, in good health and have a good career. I’m searching for someone near my age who has similar achievements in life, someone I can communicate with in and out of the bedroom. Simple request, right?

What I’m realizing is that dating hasn’t changed much over the years. If one of the parties isn’t happy and decides to leave, someone gets hurt. (I have been on both sides.) I am starting to fear expressing my feelings openly and honestly, and if it eventually does come to sex, it’s creating performance anxiety. I understand this is all part of the dating ritual, but it’s preventing me from being honest and I’m trying to avoid it.

I see a female therapist who says I just haven’t met the right person yet, and I agree. I have a female friend in a similar situation who has become so bitter she now avoids men completely. My age-old question is: How does a person find a happy balance in this dating world? – Dating Scene in Arizona

Dear Dating Scene: “Dating” means different things to different people. To your male friends – as you have found out – it means a sexual free-for-all. For others, dating is a sifting process that lasts until they meet someone they’re comfortable enough with to communicate honestly.

In any successful relationship, communication is key. That’s why it’s important to be honest with the women you meet, and for them to be the same way with you.

Dear Abby: My son’s girlfriend and her 8-year-old daughter have been living with my son for the last four years. She has recently started introducing my husband and me as her daughter’s “grandparents.” Tonight she asked for details about my father so her daughter could include them in a paper she is writing about her “family.” I feel uncomfortable with this new description of our relationship, although I don’t want to hurt the girl. Should I say something to my son’s girlfriend or my son? – Family Details in California

Dear Family Details: The word from here is: Keep your lips zipped! If you object, it will cause only hard feelings. You say your son and his girlfriend have been living together for four years. If they should have a child together, do you plan to treat that child differently? Face it, you ARE in the role of a grandparent.


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