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Tue, March 26

Dear Abby: Woman’s dangerous dating habits frighten her friend

Dear Abby: I’m worried about a close friend I have known for about 10 years. She’s well-educated, independent and family-oriented. She has been online dating for quite a while and continually meets guys who have criminal backgrounds.

She dated one of them on the down low for two years because she was embarrassed by how he behaved in public. The most recent man served a 16-year prison sentence for being involved in a murder.

She tells me she doesn’t see a future with any of them, but goes on multiple dates and defends them with, “He seems like a nice guy.” In the next breath, she’ll claim to want a steady and meaningful relationship.

I have voiced my concerns. I asked her what she’d say to me if the tables were turned, and her responses mimic the concern I show her.

I believe in second chances up to a point, but now I’m genuinely worried for her safety. Is there anything else I can do to convince her to have safer boundaries? – Concerned About Criminals

Dear Concerned: No, you have done enough. Until your friend admits to herself that she’s fishing for trout in the wrong stream, she’ll continue to reel in sharks.

Dear Abby: Is it normal for men to sulk or get angry when they don’t get sex when they want it? I’ve been married to my husband for more than 30 years.

The other night, he did his usual sulking. Then, as he often does, he tossed about in bed, repeatedly and roughly, while we’re trying to sleep. The whole bed shook. Another night, he stuck his elbow in my ribs to be sure he got my attention.

Sometimes he’ll grab my butt really hard while I’m trying to sleep – in the middle of the night, mind you. I end up having sex with him so he leaves me alone and I can sleep.

Do most men do this when they don’t get sex as often as they like? – Spouse Sulking In The North

Dear Spouse: You have tolerated this for 30 years? What you have described is spousal abuse. Most men do not behave the way your husband does, bullying and coercing their wives into marital relations. Please discuss this with a licensed mental health professional. His behavior is off the charts, and you need more help than I can give you in a letter.


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