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Dear Abby | Husband loses desire for wife after witnessing her overdose

Dear Abby: I have been married for three years to a woman who is very beautiful inside and out. Recently, I found out she is addicted to pain meds – and two months ago she confided that she had gotten hooked on heroin.

I set up an intervention to get her into rehab. But when the time came to go, she kept putting it off. She said she wanted to get high “one more time,” so I told her OK, as long as she did it at home, so I’d know she was safe. After she injected herself, she went limp, so I called 911 and got her into the hospital.

It is now two months later, and she is back. I love her dearly, but I no longer desire to be intimate with her. How do I tell her I will always stand by her, but no longer want to be intimate? She’s younger and still has a strong sex drive. – Lost That Part in the East

Dear Lost: The news should be conveyed in the office of a licensed marriage and family therapist. While your sexual problem may result from the shock of seeing your wife nearly die in front of you, there may be more to it. You say she is “younger and STILL has a strong sex drive.” This suggests that you are older and your lack of desire might to some extent be age- or hormone-related.

Dear Abby: My parents and my wife’s parents both live 20 minutes from us. Both sets of parents purposely moved to be close to us. The problem is both sets of parents tell people the few times we are together how often they see their grandkids – which is simply not true.

I am bothered about it for two reasons: They are taking undue credit for “helping us out,” and second, I’m sick of having heard for the last 12 years how “lucky” my kids are to have such wonderful grandparents.

Is there a nice way to say to my parents/in-laws that the story they are selling is fiction? – Sick of the Fiction

Dear Sick: I find it strange that both sets of in-laws would relocate to be close, and then not follow through on trying to be close. I also don’t know why your parents would loudly take credit for the things they haven’t been doing. If you want to end the fiction, tell the extended family the truth and explain that you really do need their help and why. You should have done it years ago.


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