Dear Abby: Husband’s willingness to help ex-wife earns rebuke at home
Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married 18 years. This is the second marriage for both of us. His ex-wife has asked him to fill in as caretaker for her father while she goes to an appointment. He sees nothing wrong with this, but it makes me very uncomfortable.
I don’t think this should be our responsibility. His ex-father-in-law has three other grown children. I don’t know how to handle this without coming off as the bad guy. Help, please. Or am I the one who needs counseling? – Uncomfortable in Gulfport
Dear Uncomfortable: I wish you had mentioned how friendly your husband’s divorce was, and how much contact he has continued to maintain with his ex’s family. While I agree that caring for his former father-in-law should be his children’s responsibility, I would have to know more about this than you have written because there may be extenuating circumstances.
That your husband would be willing to do this – occasionally – speaks well about his level of compassion and character. But if this is ongoing, I can see why you would be uncomfortable about it.
Dear Abby: I have been a vegetarian since I was 6 for ethical reasons, and I would like to raise my unborn daughter to be one, too. The problem is my parents and five sisters don’t agree. They say that I will be depriving her and that I should let her make her own choices. They also said they will do as they please, even after I explained I would always have her food prepared in advance. Am I already a bad mom for saying no to meat? – Ethical Reasons in Spokane
Dear Ethical Reasons: According to the Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine: “Children raised on fruits, vegetables, whole grains and legumes grow up to be slimmer and healthier and even live longer than their meat-eating friends.” However, not all doctors feel this way and advise that around 8 or 9 months complete proteins be introduced into a baby’s diet to ensure the child gets enough iron. This is why this very important subject should be discussed with your child’s pediatrician to help you decide what is best for her.