Dear Abby: Older couple mourns loss of friends and connections
Dear Abby: I am 74, and my wife is 71. We are lonely. All of our friends have died, and we have no relatives in this state. We both have health issues that keep us mostly housebound. That leaves out volunteering and sports, and the high cost of gas is a factor.
We live in our own home and want to continue living here. Our home is in a development consisting of busy families involved in their own lives or too young to bother with a couple of older people. We tried church only to find that everyone there is as involved in their own lives as our neighbors are.
I fear the thought of one of us dying and leaving the other to possibly die alone in our house, not to be missed or discovered until much later. How can we have friends like we used to have, and not shallow acquaintances? – Frightened of the Future in Pennsylvania
Dear Frightened: If there are senior citizen centers in your community, I recommend you contact them. That way you can meet new people and form relationships with contemporaries. Also, these centers usually have geriatric specialists or social workers on staff with whom you can discuss your concerns.
That said, it’s important to remember that the kind of friendships you and your wife used to have take time to develop – they don’t happen overnight. Another thought: You say most of your neighbors are busy with their children. Perhaps you could reach out and offer to baby-sit for some of them in your home, if the parents would like a night off.
Dear Abby: I’m a fifth-grader, and I’d like to know something important to girls my age. I want to know how to get a guy to be my boyfriend and the steps to getting him. It’s hard for me to get a boyfriend.
I know what you’re going to say – I’m too young for boys. But if I am, I would like this information for future reference. I have tried other things. Nothing worked, and basically, you’re my last hope. – Planning Ahead in Bay City, Texas
Dear Planning Ahead: OK, let’s review the basics. Are you neat and clean in your appearance? Are you fun to be around and liked by your classmates of both genders? Do you smile and say hello and show an interest?
Basically, the qualities that attract other girls are the same ones that will make boys pay attention.