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Dear Abby | Affair with a married man earns sister’s disapproval

Dear Abby: My sister has been having an affair with a married man. When I asked if he was going to leave his wife, she said no, and it was fine with her.

She refers to him as her “honey,” and he buys her things. She stays in contact with him constantly on her iPad and says how much he loves her.

I would want to be open and have everyone get to know about my honey instead of sneaking around. When I say I don’t believe he loves her, she gets mad and accuses me of being jealous. I also told her that if I loved someone, I’d want to be with him and not communicate via email. Gifts wouldn’t make up for the person not being with me, especially if I claimed to love him.

I was in a relationship with a married man once, but I wasn’t happy about it and ended it. Am I off base because I feel the way I do? – Sneaking Around in Maine

Dear Sneaking: You’re not off base. But you’re also not your sister. The two of you appear to have very different values.

If she were hoping for more than the status quo, I would say she’s wasting her time. But she seems to know the score.

Dear Abby: I know three people who have cancer. One is terminal, one is probably terminal and the other is possibly terminal. The second and third individuals I’ve known for a long time. The terminal person, however, is a social acquaintance – someone I met through a close friend.

Over the last two years we have socialized a half-dozen times, but we’ve never had an extended conversation. As her condition has worsened, she has withdrawn from most socializing. I receive updates from my friend. Officially, I don’t know anything. But I was told her oncologist has informed her she’s got six months.

My question is: Should I contact her? I’ll feel like an idiot and like I’m invading her privacy if I do, yet somehow guilty if I don’t. – Friend Of A Friend in New York

Dear Friend: I assume you know as much about this woman as you do because your good friend is confiding in you. I see nothing to be gained by inserting yourself at this point, and you should not feel guilty for keeping your distance. Listen to your gut.

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