Dear Abby | Woman admired for beauty wants men to look deeper
Dear Abby: I have been reading your advice and your mother’s for decades. I am an attractive 65-year-old woman. I have no problem meeting men. I have been told numerous times I look 20 years younger than my age.
The problem is, if I hear another man tell me how beautiful I am, I may go ballistic. I want a man to appreciate me for my intellect and my personality.
I thought when I was past 50 I would no longer have to hear about my looks. I want a man to appreciate the person I am inside, not outside. I don’t wear makeup, and I don’t dress up. What does an old lady do to get a man to appreciate her for her brain and not her looks? – Annoyed in Florida
Dear Annoyed: Please cut these poor would-be suitors some slack. Until they get to know the person you are inside, what else would you expect them to say to ingratiate themselves? You have been blessed with good looks, an asset most women would welcome. Stop complaining and appreciate what you have. If you do, you will be an even more beautiful woman inside.
Dear Abby: My wife and I are having a debate: A married woman is out of town by herself and meets a man two nights in a row for drinks. Over the next few months she talks to him several times on the phone, and then one night he calls her at 9:30, after she is already in bed, and tells her he’s in town. So she gets up, gets dressed (drop-dead gorgeous), takes off and meets him. She sits in his truck for an hour, kissing and hugging, no sex or intimate touching. All of this is without her husband’s knowledge. Did this woman have an affair? – Just Curious in Georgia
Dear Just Curious: Yep! And it may have started when she met him when she was out of town. Even if there was no sex act, plenty of intimate physical contact was happening – and that’s what I’d classify as infidelity.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.