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Dear Abby | Girlfriend loves man and his dogs but draws line at more

Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together for a while. He is the kindest, most considerate and thoughtful man I’ve ever dated.

We do not officially live together but spend the majority of the week together, mostly at his house. He has three very large dogs we share the responsibility of caring for. They are not fixed, and he wants to have a litter of puppies (one of which he would keep). I strongly object for numerous reasons.

He has people willing to give them good homes, but the female (whom I am very attached to) had severe postpartum for more than a year after her last litter.

I love the man, he is my best friend, and I love his dogs. Would it be foolish of me to throw away a good relationship over this? – Going to the Dogs in Connecticut

Dear Going: I don’t think so. If he is truly kind, considerate and thoughtful, he will take into consideration that you are handling as much responsibility as you can shoulder and not insist on yet another litter.

Dear Abby: My father passed away a little over a year ago. Since then, I have started spending more time with my mother, and my husband does not like it. She is a huge help with our kids. On the day she gets them off the school bus, she will stay for dinner. Our kids love it when she’s here.

My husband now wants this to stop. He says it annoys him. He gets angry when I talk to her on the phone, when I go to her house, when I help her with things – everything!

I am torn. I love my mother and don’t want my relationship with her to change. But every time I do anything with her, even have a quick conversation, my husband throws it in my face that I “put her before him.” Please help me. I am not sure how much more of this I can take. – Stuck in the Middle

Dear Stuck: That he feels so encroached upon or threatened that he’s determined to alienate you from your widowed mother and is dictating how often you can visit or talk with her on the phone tells me he may be an extremely jealous and controlling person. This is such a red flag you should discuss it with a licensed marriage and family therapist. If he won’t agree to go with you, I urge you to go without him. You should also encourage your mom to branch out into other activities, so she can reduce the amount of time she’s with you.

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