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Dear Abby | Turnabout is fair play for friend using friend

Dear Abby: I have a friend who lived in my home most of the time for about six years. During that period, she rented out rooms in her house. She paid her bills, and I paid mine, but I covered her living off me. At the time, it didn’t bother me much because I could afford it, although I would have preferred to save that money.

I have since sold that house and bought my dream retirement home in another state. Now, I stay with her, and her renters have moved out. It’s unpleasant sometimes because when she gets drunk she accuses me of using her. (It’s true, I am.) Is it OK to use her by staying in her home without really liking her much? I feel it’s my turn to leech, and I’d like to stick it out until I retire in about a year. – Waiting to Move

Dear Waiting: It’s OK with me as long as it’s OK with you. But don’t kid yourself. You’re not living there rent-free. Tolerating an unpleasant drunk is the price you’re paying, and only you can determine whether it’s worth it.

Dear Abby: I’m originally from another country and have been living in the U.S. for about a decade. Is there a rule of etiquette for kids’ play dates?

Quite often, I have invited my child’s school friends or the neighbor children to my home for play dates, but their parents never return the courtesy. If my child wants to keep having play dates with those children, should I continue inviting them?

I sometimes feel I could be making the parents uncomfortable, but I feel my child’s socialization is more important than what the other parents might think. Am I setting myself up for abuse from those other parents by sending the message that I don’t mind always being the host? – Confused Mother

Dear Confused: Kudos to you for helping your child to socialize and inviting the children into your home. However, not all parents feel as comfortable as you do about having children over, or are as able to do so. Whether or not you are being taken advantage of, I can’t say. But perhaps it’s better that you have the children in your home where you can observe and supervise what’s going on than they be someplace where you can’t.

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