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Dear Abby | Constant talk about losing weight has unhealthy effect

Dear Abby: My dad had a heart attack and nearly died a year ago. Since then, he has totally revamped his diet and put forth the effort to eat a plant-based diet to become healthier. It has been a family affair, and my sister jumped on the bandwagon as well.

I have battled for years with an unhealthy relationship with both alcohol and food. I have been seeking help for my troubles. The more help I have received, the more I have come to realize my body dysmorphia issues come from my mom and sister and their constant talk about losing weight and being healthy. Every single family event or dinner out there’s a discussion about how my mom needs to lose weight or eat better or something.

I want to support Dad, and other family members as well. How do I politely tell them I can no longer be around the constant “lose weight” talk or healthy food talk because it is hindering my own ability to heal and be happy with my body? And how do I tell a family of drinkers I’m no longer drinking? – Unhealthy in the Midwest

Dear Unhealthy: Approach your mother and your sister privately. Explain that in the course of getting help for your own issues you have discovered that certain subjects are detrimental to your recovery, and you would appreciate it if they were not a topic of conversation when you are together. When drinks are offered, ask to be served something nonalcoholic.

Dear Abby: I have a friend I connect with on many different levels. It’s amazing. But he’s already in a relationship. He tells me he loves me and doesn’t ever want to lose me, but he never talks about leaving her. He says things will naturally work themselves out.

Although he says he isn’t trying to have his cake and eat it too, that is exactly how it feels at times. I’m confused about what to do. My heart and my head are at odds. Please give me some advice that will help me settle my inner self. – Confused Girl in Love

Dear Confused Girl: As it stands, your friend has two women, and you have half a man. He may love you, but if he was IN love with you, he would end the relationship with his girlfriend.

I know the idea of breaking things off is painful, but while you have romantic feelings for this person, you won’t be free to find anybody else. You deserve someone who is willing to make the same kind of commitment to you that you are willing to make to him. Repeat that to yourself daily until he’s out of your system.

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