August 2, 2016
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What do you say when a friend’s son has committed a horrific crime? Does one say, “I’m sorry” or “Call me,” or merely pat them on the shoulder and move on? Or, what?
I am in my late 20s and dating a man in his mid-30s whom I am crazy about. We have been dating for a year and are starting to discuss marriage and children. He’s kind, hard-working, gives back to the community, and does everything he can to make me happy.
I’m dating my grammar school and high school sweetheart, “Gary.” We’ve known each other since I was 6.
Give up and move on and you will save yourself, your wife, Jamie and her husband a lot of pain.
No one can answer without a mental health professional seeing and evaluating you.
I’m a 35-year-old gay man who has been in a serious relationship for five years.
I have been dating “James” for almost a year. Things have been rough for him recently. His depression has led to school attendance issues, but we got through it.
I am married to a great man, but he’s very tight with his money. We found out early in our relationship that we couldn’t have a joint account because it caused so much fighting. We share our bills, but I am broke all the time. I have credit card debt he doesn’t know about.
My “friend” from childhood, “Camille,” has never had my back.
My mother-in-law owns the building my husband and I live in.
My daughter “Scarlet” has a precious 18-month-old baby girl I’ll call Sierra.
I am a 50-year-old woman. I have been married to my husband for 28 years and never cheated.
After 16 years of loyal and dedicated service to my employer, I find myself out of work. Months ago, I needed double knee replacements. I gave him three months’ notice about my surgery, planning to return on June 1. It was a one-girl office; I was responsible for all the administrative duties.
In 1985 I met a lovely divorced lady with two adorable children. The three of us got along well. A year later I married into this family. Until then I had no children of my own.
Dear Abby: The media give us stories of racial conflict and the shooting of police officers almost daily, and every reporter and news anchor proposes solutions.
A number of years ago, it came out that my brother-in-law had raped and molested his two daughters and two granddaughters. It tore our family apart.
I am a child care provider working with infants. Two of us work in the nursery and share responsibilities.
I have been married to my husband for 38 years. We both had long professional careers and saved diligently for our retirement. Our children are on their own and doing well with their careers.
We have been married two years now, and I’m trying hard to reconcile the fact that I’m married to a conspiracy theorist who believes the world is flat.
I’m a retired woman living in a condo complex that houses mostly seniors. During the eight years I have lived here, I’ve always participated in several monthly social events, and have served on the condo association board. I know most of the other residents and count many of them as friends.
Their cleaning practices are questionable. They simply rinse plates and utensils after use, as opposed to using the dishwasher. Within an hour of arriving, the dust makes my allergies and asthma flare up.
You should be scared. What you did was shameful and dangerous.
We’d had our ups and downs over 25 years, but he moved cross-country to the same city as I’m in and was there for many happy and sad life events, including the deaths of my remaining immediate family and his parents.
As a child, I suffered a lot of abuse from my parents until I finally, at 13, opened up to a teacher. I was removed from my house and spent the remainder of my youth in various foster homes. I never felt like I had a home or family until I was an adult and made my own.
“Charlotte” and I have been friends for 16 years, ever since we met in college. She lives several states away, so we see each other only once a year when she and her family come to town for a long weekend. Beyond this annual get-together, we never chat on the phone, and communication is pretty much limited to social media.
Dear Abby: I am tired of taking a backseat to my boyfriend’s video game addiction.
Dear Abby: I was widowed seven years ago. When my husband died, I thought it was the end of my suffering.
The Teen booklet has been distributed in doctors’ offices and used to promote discussions by educators and religious leaders, as well as parents who find it hard to discuss these topics with their children.
Explain that you know they would not feed certain foods to a diabetic, and you need the same dispensation.
My daughter has graduated from high school. She had been in a residential treatment program for depression the year and a half prior to returning to this school. Her old friends had promised to be there for her when she returned.
We have three grandchildren and are due to make our annual visit. Two of the children are easy to plan for, and we have good relationships with them.
I’m in a relationship with my high school sweetheart, whom I truly love, but I am also crazy about my boss. She’s beautiful, funny, and to be honest, I jumped at my promotion so I could get closer to her.
My brother-in-law “Charles” has earned the privilege of being buried in a military cemetery. He lost his wife, “Claire,” to cancer 10 years ago; she is buried in their plot in the military cemetery with a headstone.
Dear Abby: I have a wonderful husband of 11 years and three children.
Her response – or lack of one – will tell you if she’s really interested.
Our son and his fiancee are having a destination wedding. My husband and I are hosting a local reception here where we live because we would like our close family and friends to be able to celebrate their wedding.
After reading the letter from “Dumbstruck in Chicago” (April 24), who’s dating a recently divorced man who was unfaithful to his ex-wife through multiple affairs and one-night stands with prostitutes, I cannot stay silent.
For some reason it’s bothering me more and more now. I want to remember my mother.
Little girls have been known to wrap their daddies around their little fingers before they are old enough to walk. The same is true for baby boys and their mothers.
I am a 64-year-old widow who lost my husband 5 1/2 years ago. I became reacquainted with a former classmate at a high school reunion, and we started dating.
I am a retired male. My girlfriend is still working. We have been exclusive for three years. We live 300 miles apart but see each other every two or three weeks for at least three days and, until now, have had a very good relationship.
My husband of 20 years has blindsided me by announcing he’s leaving. Come to find out he’s “in love” with a co-worker and thinks they are soul mates.
My husband has become very overweight, which has caused his sex drive – as well as his health – to suffer. I worry about him constantly, and I miss the intimacy we used to have. He is aware of how I feel and started trying to eat healthier. He also tries to exercise at least a little bit every day.
She’s off to college in a few months, and “in order to ensure she’s attractive to boys,” wants to get a boob job. She works in a clothing store and has saved toward the cost.
Dear Abby: My parents went through a bitter divorce five years ago and have had little to no contact since then.
Because you know he’s cheating, hire a private detective for a month and find out who with. Then talk to a lawyer about what your rights are as a wronged wife in New York.
A guarantor is different from a legal guardian or parent. Have their mother call the doctors and request the information so she can share it with you.
My wife and I have been married for 42 years. For the most part, we have had a good marriage. We raised two children, are helping to raise three grandchildren and still enjoy each other’s company.
Jane is having an affair with Mary’s husband and has confided in me about every detail. She keeps telling me it’s over, and then I find out it isn’t. I spoke to Mary’s husband and told him if it doesn’t stop, I’ll tell Mary.
I am a woman, 34, who has finally met the man I want to spend my life with. He’s 31, and his family lives about six hours away. He plans to move his mother here to live in the near future. She doesn’t work or drive.
I met the love of my life eight months ago. Everything about our relationship is perfect. We both love our families, fine food, games and, most importantly, each other. We met at an antique store and now have an extensive stamp collection together.
Dear Abby: I have a 59-year-old brother-in-law who has always been a “proud bachelor.” He isn’t a rich, handsome, George Clooney-type bachelor, but a hand-to-mouth, burping, uncouth “Shallow Hal” kind of bachelor. He befriended a woman with four daughters, paying most of his attention to one of the daughters.
Have a frank talk with your friend, tell her her behavior is inappropriate, and ask her not to do it in front of you.
My husband and I have been happily married for two years. We both want biological children later, when the timing is right.
I got a stepdad when I was a young teen. He never tried to replace my dad, and was very respectful of that relationship. I didn’t regard him as a father figure, but more as a relative, friend, and a good man who has done a lot of good for my family.
My mother-in-law constantly talks to my husband about committing suicide because she’s not happy with her life or her husband. My husband worries all the time and has offered to let her come stay with us for a while.
He may avoid companions his own age because they remind him that he, too, is getting older.
You escalated the situation and you shouldn’t have. However, if you feel so strongly about strip clubs, perhaps you should consider finding another man to spend your life with because it really isn’t possible to control the actions of another adult.
What’s going on is not your fault. You should not assume responsibility for their problems because you can’t fix them.
I have some suggestions for “Longing to Be a Mom” (Feb. 27), whose husband doesn’t want a child. If you talk your husband into it, are you prepared to do all the parenting while he sits staring at the TV or starts working longer hours or worse? Are you prepared for the lack of connection that child might have with his/her father?
I tend to react poorly when someone pulls a prank on me. My reaction is usually anger, hurt or embarrassment, and I end up saying or doing things I later regret because emotion took over.
I have a friend who brags nonstop about her boyfriend, her job, her new car, etc. She only comes out of the woodwork every so often to text me things like, “Roy just got a $13 raise at work!” I respond with wholehearted support and congratulations, then don’t hear from her again until days later.
My brother-in-law died a month ago and was cremated by the local affiliate of a prominent funeral home. To make it easier for my sister, I accompanied her to the mortuary to pick up her husband’s remains. I walked in alone, and as I returned to the car with his urn, a young funeral home employee in a black suit and scuffed shoes followed me.
Separation is part of a military marriage. I agree that for you and your husband to fix what’s wrong with your marriage, he will need to be present and accounted for.
From where I sit, you TOLD your husband what you wanted his choice to be, and because he loves you, he immediately agreed.
I have rekindled a romance from my youth. “Jerry” and I were engaged to be married 47 years ago, but I felt he was too worldly and fast for me, so I broke off the engagement. I later married and had a happy marriage for 36 years until my husband died.
My daughter is 17. When she was 1, she had leukemia. The treatments have left her with chronic pain as well as some disabilities that she deals with.
My son “Jeff” is wealthy and lives in another state with his wife and family. His wife has now moved her mother to where they live, and she works for my son.
My granddaughter, “Emily,” is 13. I have been very involved with her all her life. My daughter, “Ginger,” is divorced and has had a boyfriend, “Greg,” for about three years, but there has been no talk of marriage.
My husband and I have been married for 13 years and have two beautiful children. I recently found out that for the last two years, he has been having an affair, and his mistress is now three months pregnant.
Talk to your cousin and also your best friend. When you do, remind your cousin there are serious responsibilities that go along with being a maid of honor and ask if they would create a problem for her
I lost my husband of 45 years three years ago.
I’m not going to attempt to psychoanalyze a man I have never met. Heck, it’s hard enough to do when I know the person.
Stalking your ex-wife on Facebook isn’t going to get you what you want.
You are responsible for your mother’s social life because you have placed yourself in that position.
If she can’t adapt to that reality, she should live elsewhere. It may take her longer to afford her own house, but you will all be more comfortable.
Your letter is inspirational. In your P.S. you asked me to print it to help others. Your letter, and others I’m including here, may help to put this sensitive subject into perspective.
I’m average, fitness-wise, and work in an office. My girlfriend, who is naturally athletic, has belonged to a gym for a year. Our two fitness paths collided when I was enjoying a coffee with her and her training partner, “Trixi,” at her place one day.
I belong to a family that doesn’t respond to RSVPs for weddings or wedding showers.
I have really nice neighbors, and we are always pleasant to each other. We put up a large above-ground pool in our backyard, and they put up a trampoline.
Postpartum depression is more than being tired and overscheduled. It’s a medical condition that, left untreated, can have serious consequences.
Having been a compulsive recipe collector for many years, I can imagine how frustrating it was to discover your recipes were gone.
At 13, it’s too soon to throw up your hands and give up. Because therapy and medication haven’t helped your son, I would have to ask what kind of therapist has been seeing him.
My daughter is 19 and lives with me. She is seeing a 26-year-old man who has a child with another woman he didn’t marry.
My fiance and I are looking forward to being married soon. The problem is, he wants a traditional wedding with bridesmaids and groomsmen, and I prefer a wedding at the courthouse.
I have a great marriage to an amazing woman. We have beautiful kids and are really happy together. The issue, however, is my in-laws.
Our daughter turns 5 soon, and my wife still breastfeeds her to bed every night and wakes her a few times a night for more breastfeeding.
One reason gay people have “issues,” as you put it, is because they have to endure opposition and nonacceptance from the family members they love.
I’m hosting a couple’s baby shower in a few weeks, and one of the guests is very religious. My husband suggests I hang the artwork somewhere else or hide it for the party.
My boyfriend’s best friend asked if we could drive an hour to visit them and their children on Saturday.
I am a happily married man. I’m also a part of my church’s worship team and at the church three times a week. Two ladies are active in the church almost as much as I am.
A few weeks ago, I was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer.
I had a brief affair with a married man 36 years ago. “Jerry” had left his wife after learning she was sleeping with his best friend.
My adult son passed away two years ago at a young age. We were very close while he was growing up. He married young, and I maintained a great relationship with both him and his wife.
My boyfriend, “Chris,” and I were planning on moving in together. We went apartment hunting and created a realistic budget we could both maintain.
After a lot of talk and no action, I finally made the decision to further my education with a master’s degree. At present, I have one more required undergraduate credit to complete at the local university.
My husband’s brother split from his wife, “Charlotte,” five years ago and now works and lives in another country. The brothers are still quite close.
My son, a junior in college, is trying to get a summer job. His degree is challenging, and he has a good work ethic plus job experience.
My daughter is graduating from high school and will be starting college. It was always her plan to go to a school away from our small town, and I supported that decision. However, six months ago she started dating her first real boyfriend.
My second-oldest sister wants to plan an elaborate road trip this summer that involves renting an RV and driving cross-country with our nieces to visit Disneyland. She feels that since I have the summer off, I should be more than happy to go on this trek.
My elderly father remarried after my mother died two years ago. He married an acquaintance who is 30 years younger at the courthouse with no friends or family in attendance.
Is there a polite way to refuse giving store clerks personal information? It seems like every time I shop, the clerks demand email, phone number, even birthdate, and they get testy when I say I just want to complete my purchase.
My ex-wife and I were married for 29 years. Then she had an affair with a co-worker’s husband. Now that we’re divorced, she thinks we should be the best of friends!
I am a 32-year-old woman whose mother and grandmother told me about our proud Native American heritage all my life.
I am a 53-year-old woman who has finally met a kind, decent man after many abusive relationships.
Remember, that decision was made many years ago. What if you find her and she’s married with children? Would it make you feel better or worse?
Your son’s reaction was immature. He should understand that sometimes circumstances can change.
My 15-year-old daughter, “Jenny,” went to a sleepover with her two best friends from school last Friday, “Penny” and “Ginger.” Penny’s parents went out and left the girls alone.
Dear Abby: I’m struggling because my stepson has chosen to get married on my birthday.
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My husband loaned a “dear friend” some money a year ago. She has yet to pay back a penny.
I work so much that my son has stopped calling me “Mommy” and instead calls me by my name.
This female relative has been asking about my son on social media because she has seen him in pictures with Bryan’s family.
Dear Abby: I am almost 62 and struggling to get through the day at work.
My son bought me a car in 2012. I had no idea he was doing it. He traded my car in for this newer car.
I’m a 72-year-old married woman. My husband has atypical Parkinson’s and can no longer talk or walk.
I’m not sure how happy my wife is. I’m afraid she may be suffering from postpartum depression.
Dear Abby: I’m a widowed senior who has been dating a very kind man, “Ben,” for three years.
Relative no longer wants to pay health insurance if niece continue to vacation.
Seeing a child you love struggle with depression is such a helpless feeling.
Single mother stuck in a love triangle.
Dear Abby: I am 28 and I’m disgusted with myself about how I talk to my mother when I’m stressed out.
Bearded husbands and love struck mother in today's Dear Abby letters.
Dear Abby: My husband, to whom I’ve been married since July of 2016, has recently caved in to pressure from friends to participate in “swinger” behavior.
I have grown children. All of them are underachievers.
Dear Abby: My son and his wife have been together 10 years.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Ten months ago, my husband said to me, “I told you I would divorce you if you ever got fat.”
Dear Abby: I’m at a loss as to how to stay in my 21-year marriage.
A year ago, my husband confessed that he was having an affair at work
His wife isn't actually that great
My husband met a gal 33 years younger than he is at a doctor’s office.
This husband refuses to learn how to work computers
Female teenager feels societal pressure to have sex early
Husband exhibits controlling behavior and parent of a college student wonders how involved she can be
Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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Girl time and girl trouble.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a girl holding her father’s hand or demonstrating affection
The art of "thank you" has been lost
Abby tackles relationship issues and holiday blues
Dear Abby: My ex-husband and I have been divorced for three years and share custody of our 10-year-old daughter.
Responses to "Wallowing in the North"
My husband and I have been together 21 years, married for 17.
Dear Abby tackles big talkers and runaway dads
Father tries to connect with daughter
Dear Abby: My boyfriend of two years will be attending a bachelor party in Las Vegas.
Dear Abby: My wife and I have been married for many years, work long schedules, and actually sleep when we go to bed at night.
Dear Abby: My husband, “Ralph,” and I have been married for 30 years.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I just moved in together. We have been a couple for seven years. Until now, we have lived with our parents.
Dear Abby: Two years ago, I married a kind, hard-working man I’ll call Travis.
Millionaire husband appears to be unwilling to subsidize any travel that includes wife's children
Dear Abby: My son and his live-in girlfriend were expecting a baby.
Dear Abby: I have been married for 17 years to the love of my life.
Dear Abby: Can you tell me why men watch porn?
Dear Abby: My mother is extremely self-centered.
Dear Abby: I am a 16-year-old girl in a somewhat happy relationship.
Dear Abby: I enjoy reading your column, especially letters regarding young girls and their social skills.
Dear Abby: I recently got married to a wonderful man who is 19 years younger than I am.
Dear Abby: I am a mother of three and happily married to my kids’ father.
Dear Abby: I moved to the Philippines five years ago. While I was there I met “Emma.”
Dear Abby: Regarding the letter from “Dumbstruck in the East” (April 22), whose 9-year-old daughter has been getting “proposals of marriage” from a church usher in his 70s.
Dear Abby: I think my stepdaughter “Caroline” has an unhealthy relationship with my husband.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half.
Dear Abby: My mother is dating a married man, and this is not the first time.
Dear Abby: I am in an interracial relationship with a guy whose parents don’t support our being together because I’m from a different race and culture than he is.
Dear Abby: I’m worried about a close friend I have known for about 10 years.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I work out at the same gym.
Dear Abby: When my husband and I were dating, he told me that he’d had a consensual sexual relationship with his cousin, “Irma.”
Dear Readers: Today’s column is a continuation of yesterday’s about the importance of gun safety and parents feeling confident enough to raise the subject with other parents.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend cheated on me the whole time I was pregnant last year. He lived in Florida, and I lived in Missouri. He didn’t make it back for our son’s birth like he promised.
Dear Abby: I’m 17. My mom and I often disagree on things. Don’t get me wrong – I don’t care what she does in her free time, but lately I have learned she’s talking to people about bisexuality.
Dear Abby: I don’t know what to do.
Dear Abby: My wife and I have been married for 17 years. For the first 16 years, my wife would make me lattes without being asked.
Dear Abby: I dated the perfect man for two years. When he asked me to marry him, I had to say yes.
Dear Abby: I am concerned about my niece.
Dear Abby: My husband works full-time, and when he gets home, and also on weekends, he’s “exhausted” and needs to relax.
Dear Abby: I have been married for two years, and my husband has three grown children.
Dear Abby: My best friend is getting married next year and I am supposed to be the maid of honor.
Dear Abby: I’m a mother of three beautiful little girls.
Dear Abby: My husband and I went on a trip with his brother and his wife recently.
Dear Abby: I live in a 55-plus community. We have lost 49 neighbors during the past five years – yes, seriously. Others are in nursing homes with no quality of life.
Dear Abby: Our daughters aren’t speaking.
Dear Abby: My husband, “Ray,” and I have been together for 10 years and, like most couples, we have had our ups and downs.
Dear Abby: I’m a 47-year-old man.
Dear Abby: This is something I can’t talk about in my grief support group. I’m a 70-year-old widow. I lost my dear husband of 35 years 17 months ago. I always was more sexual than he was.
Dear Abby: I recently moved to Texas and met my teenage niece for the first time. After I got there I learned she had been molested by her mother’s father at the age of 3.
Dear Abby: I was in a relationship for 12 years. “Jenny” was my best friend. I had to end our relationship because she had allowed her mother to destroy it.
Dear Abby: My mom passed away two years ago.
DEAR ABBY: My elderly father’s dearest friend committed suicide yesterday.
Dear Abby: I’ve been dating a wonderful woman for two years.
Dear Abby: I recently had to spend a night in the hospital following minor surgery.
Dear Abby: My wife died of cancer four years ago. She was my best friend, and the pain of losing her was more than I could cope with.
Dear Abby: My mother has been a hospice volunteer for six months. I think that’s great.
Dear Abby: I’m a single 38-year-old woman.
Dear Abby: I recently met a 28-year-old father of three I’m interested in.
Dear Abby: My brother is in a long-term relationship.
Dear Abby: I’ve been in an extramarital relationship for 10 years. My husband knows, and so do my close friends.
Dear Abby: I have a longtime friend I see almost every day. She’s an awesome friend.
Dear Abby: I am a 28-year-old female. I recently married the most amazing man in the whole world, “Jeremy.”
Dear Abby: I’ve never written to you before, but I’m having a disagreement with my husband.
After performing in last year’s Christmas parade, a group of the students went to a nursing home to perform for the residents. When we arrived, I started to get out of the car with my son so I could listen, as other parents were doing. My son seemed surprised that I was going to stay and said he would rather I didn’t because I make him nervous. Needless to say, I was devastated.
Dear Abby: I’m in my late 20s and have a male companion who is 30-plus years older than I am.
Dear Abby: My wife recently started a new yoga class she really likes.
Dear Abby: We have owned our house for 31 years and raised our kids here.
Dear Abby: My ex-husband is coming to celebrate our daughter’s graduation. He is bringing along his parents. I’m happy they are coming to show love and support for our daughter; however, his mother has dementia.
Dear Abby: I’m a married, heterosexual male.
Dear Abby: I am a 24-year-old professional woman who has been having an affair with a married man for three years.
Dear Abby: I’m in a second marriage, which was only for the benefit of insurance so my husband could get insurance through my employer’s plan.
Dear Abby: My wife, “Rita,” and I separated a year ago.
Dear Abby: I was divorced three years ago, and recently went on some dating sites to find a possible companion.
My former spouse and I are divorced and share a 3-year-old daughter. Soon after the baby was born, my ex came out as transgender and now lives as a woman.
Dear Abby: A few years ago, my sister mailed me a long letter detailing her resentment for me and our lack of closeness.
Dear Abby: I am 21 and about to graduate from college.
Dear Abby: I’ll be retiring next year. My husband is already retired.
Dear Abby: I’m 36, doing very well in business, single and deeply in love with a 58-year-old woman.
Dear Abby: I’m a pansexual female and open about it with my friend and also my brother.
Dear Abby: My workplace, like many others, is “scent-free” because of the possibility that some employees might be chemically sensitive.
Dear Abby: I have a step tracker.
Dear Abby: I am a 40-year-old childless single woman.
Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married 10 years, and he treats my family and friends very different compared to how he treats his own.
Dear Abby: I am a gay man who has been dating a divorced man for nine months.
Dear Abby: I have a close friend, “Samantha,” whom I met in law school four years ago. We both graduated in 2014.
Dear Abby: My fiance, “David,” and I are getting married soon.
Dear Abby: I have been married to “Amanda” for four years.
Dear Abby: I have been married for almost five years, and my husband and I recently decided to try to have a baby.
Dear Abby: My son, “Jimmy,” is 8.
Dear Abby: My stepmother had a recipe for meatloaf that she found in your column years ago.
Dear Abby: As the only income earner in our household of five, I work long hours.
Dear Abby: My friend has decided she can no longer tolerate my husband. She feels he doesn’t “respect” her.
Dear Abby: I am 17 and dating a 16-year-old girl.
Dear Abby: When I was in my 20s I chose a career whose long-term effects I hadn’t anticipated.
Dear Abby: We have some great friends we have known for five years.
Dear Abby: My fiancee has a death wish.
Dear Abby: I have been in a two-year relationship with a man who is loving and intelligent.
Dear Abby: I’m a columnist who writes various news, feature and column stories.
Dear Abby: I’m starting to worry about my boyfriend’s relationship with his mother.
Dear Abby: I divorced my narcissistic husband after our children were raised.
Dear Abby: My brother has been married for 11 years to a woman who is very controlling.
Dear Abby: When I was a young, newly divorced, single mother, I returned to college.
Dear Abby: A year ago, I lost a tooth.
Dear Abby: I’m acquainted with a woman who has been experiencing seizures for several years and, because of the seizures, has been restricted from driving.
Dear Abby: Six years ago, not long after I announced to my family that I was going to be married, my parents decided to divorce because Dad had been cheating on Mom.
Dear Abby: I’m 15. I lost my dad two months ago.
Dear Abby: I’m writing because I see a lot of bullying going on at school.
Dear Abby: I’ve been married almost four years.
Dear Abby: My husband decided to buy a house.
Dear Abby: I recently had sex.
Dear Abby: My wife of 43 years died nine months ago after losing her four-year battle with cancer.
Dear Abby: My ex-husband had an affair with a woman who was one of my dearest friends.
Dear Abby: My husband and I have been into swinging for 20 years.
Dear Abby: I am a full-time nanny for a family with two children, ages 7 and 9.
Dear Abby: I’ve always been a self-sufficient woman.
Dear Abby: I have been a teacher for many years, and several times a year I encounter a dilemma I hope you can finally solve for me.
Dear Abby: My friend recently had a baby and could really use my daughter’s old clothes, as our girls are only a year apart and I have saved practically everything.
Dear Abby: Could you explain to me why, as a species, men are so blind and stupid?
Dear Abby: I have been with my husband for 12 years, married for three.
Dear Abby: A few years ago I met a wonderful person.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together off and on for more than two years.
Dear Abby: My son “Travis,” age 9, is computer savvy, but his “Luddite” grandparents (my in-laws) live far away from us and don’t even have internet access.
Dear Abby: I was married for more than 20 years.
Dear Readers: Today marks the 100th anniversary of America’s entry into World War I.
Dear Abby: I have been married for three years.
Dear Abby: My daughter is graduating from high school in May.
Dear Abby: I can’t talk to anyone about this (including my husband) because they’ll think something’s wrong with me or I am making it up.
Dear Abby: I recently married a man with kids.
Dear Abby: There is a boy I like at school.
Dear Abby: I’m a young man in my mid-20s, and I have a deeper voice than my stature would typically suggest.
Dear Abby: I’ve been married to my second husband for 14 years.
My 21-year-old daughter has a 6-month-old child.
I am a stay-at-home mom with three children.
Dear Abby: I am responding to the letter from “Unsure in the West” (Oct. 9).
Dear Abby: I lost my husband a few years ago and am now remarried.
Dear Abby: I have known this guy “Noah” for six years.
Dear Abby: I’m not proud to write this, but I don’t like my son-in-law.
Dear Abby: My fiance and I have been engaged for two years.
Dear Abby: I’ve had a feeling my wife is about to leave me for another man.
Dear Abby: I’m a 911 dispatcher and I am shocked by the abuse of the 911 system.
Dear Abby: I’m a 57-year-old lady.
Dear Abby: I have an issue with my father and don’t know where to turn.
Dear Abby: My son and his wife just gave us the news that they are expecting their first child.
Dear Abby: I’m a 15-year-old girl, and I’m struggling with abuse.
Dear Abby: My son “Jake” was born last June.
Dear Abby: Schoolchildren, especially middle school or high school students who may not be socially adept, often eat lunch alone because they don’t know what to do when it comes to joining other kids at the lunch table.
Dear Abby: I’m 51 and my boyfriend is 43.
Dear Abby: I am a father of two girls.
Dear Abby: I read your column all the time.
Dear Abby: I recently enrolled in an internet dating site, and have been cyber-chatting with a very sweet gentleman.
Dear Abby: My ex-boyfriend and I broke up two years ago.
Dear Abby: I have a friend in her mid-40s who has naturally dark hair she keeps cut short. It looked fine.
Dear Abby: Our house will soon be paid off.
Dear Abby: I have seen letters in your column from parents who want to ensure their children’s and teenagers’ safety when visiting their friends’ homes.
Dear Abby: I have always tried to be a compassionate person.
Dear Abby: As parents of an adopted child, we were concerned about when we would have “the conversation.”
Dear Abby: I am a new mom to a sweet baby boy.
Dear Abby: My father died four years ago, leaving my 69-year-old mother alone.
I met her after she left her husband because he had cheated on her twice.
Dear Abby: My husband’s nephew, “Jacob,” is 25 and always hanging around our house.
Dear Abby: I have recently started disclosing to close friends and family that I am asexual (someone who experiences no sexual attraction to any person).
Dear Abby: Because I had a promiscuous past prior to getting married, it was understandable that my husband and I have gone through some rough patches.
Dear Abby: I will be spending a couple of months visiting my daughter, who is a single mom.
Dear Abby: I have been a vegetarian for 12 years.
Dear Abby: My daughter and son are heroin addicts.
Dear Abby: I am 68 and my husband is 80. I just found out he is involved with a 40-year-old woman.
Dear Abby: I am 26 years old, and my mother still walks around naked in front of me with no warning.
Dear Abby: My boss wants to do a day of community service with the staff to help others and improve relationships in the workplace.
Dear Abby: My parents have been happily married for more than 30 years.
Dear Abby: I have never received a romantic Valentine, and that’s OK with me.
Dear Abby: I had planned to wait until my daughter was 12 and in the sixth grade to teach her about sex.
Dear Abby: I need advice on how to deal with my 18-year-old daughter.
Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married 18 years. This is the second marriage for both of us. His ex-wife has asked him to fill in as caretaker for her father while she goes to an appointment.
Dear Abby: One of my best friends just got engaged and I’m invited to the wedding.
I believe in God, but I don’t support my mom’s religion.
Dear Abby: I am a 14-year-old identical twin. My sister and I are sick of the whole “twin” thing and want to go to separate schools.
Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married 35 years. Our sex life was never very active, but we have been each other’s soul mates and best friends.
Dear Abby: When my children were small, my husband left me. He married the other woman the day after our divorce was final.
Dear Abby: I feel like a terrible wife when my husband gets sick – not majorly sick, but with a run-of-the-mill cold.
Dear Abby: I love my parents and would do anything for them. They have never been good about managing money.
Without mentioning it to the guest, I recognized her boyfriend as the husband of a friend of mine I’ll call Julie.
Dear Abby: I am a successful business professional in my mid-50s. I have put my children through college, and they have no student loans
Dear Abby: I’m having a hard time deciding if I should forgive my husband or tell him enough is enough.
Dear Abby: My mother-in-law has begun doing the “pop-in.” My husband passive-aggressively hinted that he wished he had known she was coming over.
Dear Abby: I have had a best friend for more than 20 years. We met when we were 18 and have been inseparable ever since.
Dear Abby: After planning to not have children, my partner and I had to adopt one of his family members.
Dear Abby: Many of your published letters come from unhappy married women. Some of them seem unable to get objective advice that would make th
Dear Abby: I am an atheist. My parents, although raised Presbyterian, never to my knowledge participated in organized religion, so it was not part of my upbringing.
I am a 23-year-old woman, and I know I should have a lot more patience than I do right now.
Dear Abby: I bought my 11-year-old daughter a cellphone. My ex does not approve.
Dear Abby: I am a 58-year-old female. My mother passed away in my home almost exactly a year ago.
Dear Abby: My sister and her family recently moved out of state after having lived near our family all her life.
Dear Abby: I need your help in dealing with an old “frenemy.
Dear Abby: My mom wants me to exercise more. Currently, I just walk a lot (in my house and around the block).
Dear Abby: In the beginning of our marriage there was physical abuse and marital rape. I stayed anyway.
Dear Abby: A few months ago I left my husband after a long marriage, mostly due to his drinking.
Dear Abby: My wife and I and our 13-year-old son live in a nice home we have been remodeling for the last eight years.
Dear Abby: I am at the end of my wits, and I need some answers. I am almost 13 and dread being a teenager because I don’t want things to be complicated.
Dear Abby: My brother and sister-in-law have been dressing my 2-year-old nephew, “Charlie,” in dresses and pink clothes.
Dear Abby: A family member keeps setting up fundraisers every time she wants to buy something for her family.
Dear Abby: I am a straight man who met and fell in love with a transgender girl I’ll call Eve.
Dear Abby: My niece has a 1-year-old son. Neither my niece nor the baby’s father is religious, and they have chosen not to have the baby baptized.
Dear Abby: My mother-in-law passed away two years ago from lung cancer.
Dear Readers: It’s 2017! A new year has arrived, bringing with it our chance for a new beginning.
Dear Abby: My husband and I are in our 30s. We do well for ourselves and are generally happy.
Dear Abby: My twin sister and I were raised by a single mom. Because Mom received welfare benefits, she was required to list “potential” fathers in order to receive aid.
Dear Abby: I am a 70-year-old woman, married for 50 years, and I hate my husband.
Dear Abby: I recently realized that my mother-in-law stole several of my prized possessions.
Dear Abby: It has happened again, another stressful, unpleasant Thanksgiving for me. My husband has out-of-town relatives who fly in using frequent flier miles.
Dear Abby: I go to the gym regularly. Part of my membership includes a free guest pass.
Dear Abby: I am writing regarding my almost 13-year-old daughter.
Dear Abby: I am a 46-year-old woman with PTSD due to a history of physical abuse, mental abuse and incest that I experienced as a child.
Dear Abby: My dad started an affair with a woman who is four years older than I am. He has left my mom.
Dear Abby: I’m a 57-year-old male who has been thrust back into the dating scene. I’m financially secure, in good health and have a good career. I’m searching for someone near my age who has similar achievements in life.
Dear Abby: I’m 57 and have been married for 25 years. My husband has retired and is ready for me to do the same.
She quickly dismissed all of them, and started telling me how I need a big stone and that it needs to be expensive.
Dear Abby: I’m a 50-something single man living with my elderly mother.
Dear Abby: My husband drinks a lot. When he does, his personality changes to the point that I don’t want to be around him.
Dear Abby: I became estranged from my family after I came out as gay. I am OK with it and don’t really care anymore. The problem is, besides having no family, I have no friends either.
Dear Abby: For the past 17 years, we have hosted parties at Christmas.
Dear Abby: My husband recently retired from the military.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I moved in with him about a year ago. He has a 9-year-old son, “Todd,” who stays with us every other week.
Dear Abby: My husband of five years has confessed to affairs that resulted in two children. I suspected that something was up when after a year of marriage he seemed distant.
Dear Abby: You would be doing millions of women a great service by telling them about Knitted Knockers Support Foundation.
Dear Abby: My daughter asked me if she should have another child, and based on what I have observed with her first, I definitely feel she shouldn’t.
Dear Abby: I am a happily married man with one problem that doesn’t go away.
Dear Abby: My wife and I have been married for almost 11 years and have three children. About four years ago my wife cheated on me and left.
Dear Abby: I recently started seeing an entrepreneur. He’s basically the most amazing man I have ever been with.
Dear Abby: My daughter and son-in-law have only one vehicle that is running. He works out of town, so he drives it, which leaves my daughter home all day without transportation.
Dear Abby: Earlier this year I moved away from home to move in with my boyfriend. We had been dating for more than a year and were close enough we could see each other whenever our schedules allowed.
Dear Abby: I recently got my husband back in touch with “Scott,” his best friend from adolescence and college.
Dear Abby: I’m engaged to a wonderful man I have been with for five years. We plan to get married as soon as his house sells and we can move into another home as a family. He has three children; I have four.
Dear Abby: With the holiday shopping season already here, may I suggest another way to look at gift giving? We all want to give the perfect gift to family members.
Dear Abby: I am a 9-year-old girl in third grade. I have problems making friends. Girls my age and older don’t like me much. Boys my age and older seem to be fine.
Dear Abby: While, as you replied to “Sleepy in California” (Sept. 17), some parents do “co-sleep” with their children for the first few months, what you were referring to is actually “bed sharing.”
Dear Abby: The holidays are coming, and this year it’s my turn to host Thanksgiving. I’m a full-time working mom with two active children, and I also volunteer. No matter how hard I will work at cleaning my house before the relatives come, I know there’ll be areas that aren’t spotless.
Dear Abby: I’m 42, and the mother of three children. I love my kids, but after many years of wanting to do something about my “mommy belly,” I decided to have a tummy tuck.
DEAR ABBY: I am a retired airline employee, and I get passes for my friends and family.
I’m a divorced and remarried mother of two adult children. Both live on their own and have decent jobs. After the divorce, I managed to keep a roof over our heads, food on the table and provide college for my children.
Dear Abby: I’m a freshman in college, blessed to have an internship in the office of a nonprofit organization. As time goes by, and as trust is built, I am being given more responsibilities.
Dear Abby: My older brother and son live with me. We are all adults, so we don’t need to ask each other’s permission before one of us leaves the house.
Dear Abby: My fiance, “Allen,” and I have dated for almost three years and have been living together for three months.
Dear Abby: My just-married daughter has informed me that we will no longer celebrate Christmas together because her husband always spends it with his mother and wants to continue doing it that way.
Dear Abby: I am a 46-year-old drug user.
Dear Abby: My husband was recently offered a new job that carries with it a significant increase in salary as well as upward mobility.
Dear Abby: I have been dating “Ian” for seven months. We met at work, and my friends convinced me to go out with him. I thought he was a nice guy, just shy.
Dear Abby: Is it wrong to drop off a 1- and a 5-year-old at a senior assisted-living center for their great-grandmother to baby-sit in her room?
Dear Abby: It has been two years, and I haven’t been able to get over my first love.
Dear Abby: After 19 years of marriage, my mother divorced my father to be with my stepfather. They have been together for 40 years now.
Dear Abby: Our daughter, a young Thai adult, is socially immature.
Dear Abby: Fall is here and as we prepare for a change in the weather, it’s also the time we turn our clocks back an hour from daylight saving time.
Dear Abby: I went to the market the other day, and there was a woman sitting on the sidewalk with two children – a boy who looked to be about 6 and a girl about 2.
Dear Abby: My brother and his wife have been married 3-1/2 years and have an 18-month-old daughter.
Dear Abby: My 34-year-old daughter, “Martha,” is a single mom. I adore my granddaughter. Martha needs me to give her $500 a month, plus cover emergencies (new tires, hospital bills for baby, etc.) in order to get by.
Dear Abby: This is in response to “Conflicted in California” (March 20), whose co-worker walks the “survivors’ lap” in Relay for Life events.
Dear Abby: I have been with my wife for 16 years. She has a grown daughter who’s the mother of eight kids, but she only has five with her at this time.
Dear Abby: I’m 18 and a freshman in college. My 16-year-old brother is supposed to be a junior in high school, but he’s still taking freshman classes. He has gone to school maybe twice this year. He just gave up and dropped out.
Dear Abby: I’m a lesbian currently dating a woman who is still in the closet. She now identifies as bisexual. We have been dating for about a year.
Dear Abby: I’m a 20-year-old college student and have had a job at the same retail store for two years. A few weeks ago, a mother walked in holding a baby that appeared to be about 6 months old. The first thing I noticed was that he had numerous bruises.
Dear Abby: I am a college student on the East Coast. A dear friend of mine who attends the same university goes home on break to the West Coast.
Dear Abby: I have two wonderful children (28 and 30). Both are married and have great spouses. Ever since I was a girl, I have dreamed of being a mother and a grandmother. My heartbreak is that neither of my children wants kids.
They make little jabs like, “... but we know you can’t afford it,” and, “Is this too expensive for you?” which echo at family gatherings to the point that neither my husband nor I want to be there.
Dear Abby: I was “ghosted” by a woman I had been in a long-distance relationship with. It lasted four years until one day she just never responded again.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I are mature adults who enjoy photography. He brings his camera when we go to the beach or sporting events – even to the store.
Dear Abby: I moved to a new state two years ago, mostly because I had a friend who lived here part-time. I have distanced myself from many of the people she has introduced me to because they all talk about each other behind their backs.
Dear Abby: My 72-year-old husband believes that not voting in the upcoming presidential election is making a statement because he can’t tolerate any of the candidates.
Dear Abby: When I call my brother or sister, I expect my call to be private, just between the two of us
Dear Abby: My husband is very political, and around election time he becomes engrossed in news shows. He has a habit of showing his favorite political news clips to friends when they visit.
Dear Abby: Four years ago, after three years of marriage, I had a brief affair and was caught by my husband, who is a doctor.
Dear Abby: I’m a 25-year-old lesbian from a suburban area outside the Twin Cities. It’s not easy finding other gay women in this area, unless I visit Minneapolis, which I don’t enjoy.
Dear Abby: I am a 911 dispatcher with some hints for your readers in case they need emergency services and must call 911.
Dear Abby: My husband of 26 years passed away unexpectedly at age 46. This was 2 1/2 years ago. I have not yet started dating; however, I finally feel like I’d like to.
I am having to part ways with someone I have known for 15 years.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years, although we have known each other for almost seven years now.
Dear Abby: My husband travels frequently with a work crew. It is not unusual for them to be gone for months at a time. During these absences, some of the married men on this crew cheat on their wives, who are at home with their children.
Dear Abby: I have a brother and a sister. I’m the oldest. My husband and I have a 3-year-old child and no plans for more children.
Dear Abby: A woman I’ll call Betty Jo works in my office. We are only casual acquaintances. We speak in passing when time permits, but she has never invited me to lunch with her or suggested any interaction outside the job.
Dear Abby: I have been living with my boyfriend for 11 months.
Dear Abby: Election Day is just over a month away. As it approaches, many people have questions about voting that could keep them away from the polls this November.
Dear Abby: My husband recently disclosed to me that he was sexually abused by his cousin, who was the same age, when he was in high school.
Dear Abby: I’ve been in a committed relationship for 19 years, and have been married for three years. My husband is wonderful, except he has absolutely no sex drive.
Dear Abby: I’ve been with my boyfriend, “Jake,” for two years. We are both 32. Since the beginning, his sister, “Michelle” (who is 26), has never liked me.
My daughter and son-in-law are both in the military. Currently her husband is stationed elsewhere. They have a 6-month-old daughter, and I’m staying with her to help her out for now.
Abby, I’m not proud of where I live now, and I don’t want to have to explain this to her.
Dear Abby: I’m a recent divorcee who has started dating again. I have been seeing this guy – also divorced – for a few months, and he recently told me he loves me.
I have been happily married for 20 years to an amazing man, “Boyd.” Eight months ago, he left his administrative job to pursue his lifelong dream of becoming an actor.
Dear Abby: I am 23, married for four years and have three children. My wife and I have always had strong sex drives. I recently accepted a dream job that pays very well. On the downside, I work 12 to 14 hours a day, and by the time I get home I’m exhausted.
While our 6-year-old enjoys the positive attention he receives from his often unusual and imaginative clothing choices, his grandparents feel we are being “disrespectful to others”.
I am 32, married for a year and a half, with no children yet. I am an only child who was raised by my mother until I was 14 because my father was in prison. My mother never remarried. She blames me for her never having found anyone.
Dear Abby: After the birth of our son, “Ricky,” my husband insisted he sleep in our bed with us.
Dear Abby: Years ago, I dated an awful guy. He possessed just about every negative quality you could imagine.
Dear Abby: I am a bisexual female college graduate living at home, and an only child. I have had one sexual encounter with a woman but never a relationship. I have, however, had relationships with men.
Dear Abby: I’m an educated, attractive 24-year-old woman who hasn’t dated much.
Dear Abby: Is it possible that people can just fall out of love with each other?
Dear Abby: My wife of 15 years is a beautiful lady I find more attractive every day.
Dear Abby: I am a stay-at-home mom who doesn’t work.
Dear Abby: We used to live in a neighborhood where my 13-year-old daughter’s best friend, “Mandy,” still lives.
Dear Abby: My wife has always been well groomed, with an obsessive interest in her fingernails and toenails. Every three or four days, she spends an hour trimming them.
Dear Abby: When my husband was a teenager, he had an ongoing affair with his mother’s 20-plus-years-older friend “Nicolle.”
Dear Abby: I am a retired librarian who lives in Texas. I am what around here is called “Anglo,” meaning white and not Hispanic. I speak four languages, with varying degrees of proficiency.
Dear Abby: I live in Dubai and started reading advice columns around 10 years ago.
Dear Abby: One of my relatives has become incontinent. She leaks badly. Most of the time her pants are wet. When she comes to visit, she doesn’t hesitate to sit on my furniture, and when she stands up, she causes a spot on my carpet!
Dear Abby: I’m a young woman of 16 years and I’m in the second year of high school. Next year will be my last, and then I will have the pressure of relatives and friends wondering what I will do with my life.
Dear Abby: I have been dating a married man for 30 years.
Dear Abby: I recently retired after 26 years of working with a professional partner of the opposite sex.
Dear Abby: Clearly, America is in a state of turmoil. I am horrified and ashamed of the senseless death occurring daily.
Dear Abby: During my wedding reception a month ago, one of the guests (a friend of my mom’s) poured a glass of water on the DJ’s laptop because he felt the music was too loud and he wanted it shut down.
Dear Abby: My friend “Virginia” and I have known each other for 11 years. Five years ago she went into renal failure and was on dialysis for three years. It was hard on her and she needed a kidney transplant.
Dear Abby: I have a complicated family situation. My dad was married to a woman named “Cynthia” for 16 years until they divorced. He met and married my mother the next year.
Dear Abby: My best friend, “Kate,” approached me on a matter I’m uncomfortable with. For the last 12 years we have laughed, cried, consulted on everything we struggle with and shared our joys.
The problem is, they drink every day – sometimes from noon to when they go to bed.
Dear Abby: For health reasons, I had been walking during my lunch break at work.
Dear Abby: I need some words of wisdom from you.
Dear Abby: I am 32 years old and divorced my wife two years ago. Although I tried dating for a bit, it was a brave new world of online apps and profiles. It wasn’t for me, and I became discouraged.
Dear Abby: I’m a 21-year-old college student. Recently, my cousin (also 21) moved in with my parents and me because her mom is verbally and mentally abusive.
Dear Abby: I am a 40-year-old man, divorced with teenage children, and have been exclusively dating a woman who has a 4-year-old daughter. There have been no clashes between our children. We have yet to have sex.
Dear Abby: I have a problem with my two younger sisters. Neither one can have children. I have three.
Dear Abby: This is my second marriage. My first husband died when our daughter was 5 months old.
Dear Abby: How should I respond to someone who keeps her smartphone on and “fact-checks” anything that is mentioned in a group conversation?
Dear Abby: I have been divorced for a year and have two boys, ages 8 and 9. During this time, my ex-husband has introduced three different women to my children and recently introduced them to a new girlfriend he has been seeing for a few weeks.
Dear Abby: About six months ago, I started a new job I really enjoy. A handyman who does odd jobs around the building was working on the floor in my area.
Dear Abby: We are a married couple in our 60s and have no close family. Before retirement, we would playfully tease each other.
Dear Abby: I recently took my 5-year-old, “Ralphie,” to his pediatrician. While we were waiting to see the doctor, Ralphie played a game on my phone.
I have been with my boyfriend, “Jake,” for a year and a half. To put it mildly, his dad does not like me.
My friend “Camilla” recently learned that she is HIV positive. My issue is, she refuses to contact her previous lover about her condition, even though she likely got it from him.
My husband, “Rob,” and I are at odds and your response may affect whether we stay together or not.
Dear Abby: We visit my grandmother out of state once a year. After our visits, I usually leave feeling defeated. A few reasons why:
Dear Abby: Ever since I was 8 I’ve been having sex, and now I’m 18.
Dear Abby: I’m an attractive 30-year-old woman just out of a five-year relationship.
Forty-five years ago I had a mistress. My wife knew about her. Both of our spouses have now passed. I have found her address on the internet, and I’m debating if I should contact her.
Dear Abby: My partner, “Andrew,” and I have been together for four years. I’m a high school teacher, and he works for a major department store.