Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
I may be having a midlife crisis. I’m not happy in my marriage and haven’t been for quite some time.
My girlfriend, “Jane,” and I have been in love for three years.
It has been a little over two years since I lost my father to leukemia. The progression of his illness and death was rapid and unforeseen. It has been a tremendous emotional strain on the family, but I seem to be having a hard time “ending” my grieving and finding even simple happiness in things I used to enjoy.
My 38-year-old daughter is being married this summer. This is her first marriage, and we are planning the wedding. She has never planned a big event like this before, and every suggestion I make gets us into a fight.
My girlfriend and I have lived together off and on for three years.
I have a friend I’ll call Rose who likes to brag about how cheap she is.
I’m a 15-year-old girl. I’m a fun person to be with, and I love spending time with my friends and family.
My husband and I have been married more than 20 years.
My wife and I raised two children – a son who is a successful doctor and a daughter who is a multipost-grad botanist. We are 72 now, in moderately failing health and very successful ourselves.
I started working in engineering in the late 1980s and thought it was “cute” that we all wore Hawaiian shirts when the guys went out for Friday lunches.